I have a son from a previous marriage who attends the same school as one of my wifes nieces. He needed a ride one day and I found my inlaws "father-in-law" were already going to be there to pick up my niece. Not seeing the big deal about asking my wife did, and she was told no! No explanation just no, I was furious. So being curious I had asked alot of friends and family what they thought of the situation, they all agreed it was wrong he's a 10 year old child and they would have just left him at school with no ride. It boiled inside me for about a week and decided finally to ask my wifes other family about the situation only one sister said it wasnt right, the others said "he's not blood related he shouldnt have to" and the other sisters husband decided to tell me my father-in-law never even liked my son..."HAD NO CLUE". So my goal is to find out if the rest of the world is this cold or just a select few who care only about themselves.
2006-06-25 16:01:47 · 14 answers · asked by upsetinkenosha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is awful. They should have given the ride.
2006-06-25 16:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by paike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why they couldn't pick up your son either>The fact that they would rather leave him at school with no ride, proves how selfish and inconsiderate some people are.I am sorry that someone would actually do that to a child.I would give my worst enemies child a ride home....because its a CHILD!I think that you are 100% right but you need to let it go.Don't build hate in your heart because of what they did.What goes around comes around, and they will get theirs.Show your son how to be the bigger person!
2006-06-25 23:08:17 · answer #2 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adults are funny sometimes. They transfer all the bad impression/images from adults to their kids even the childern didn't do anything wrong or childern have no power to change anything. From other point of view, if that kid is your neabour's child, I think your wife would give a hand. I understand your wife has shadow in her heart that you still keep contact with your ex. Hope you explain everything to her.
For me, I will give a hand. It's just a ride. It can't hurt me and change the relationship between my wife and I (if I am a guy)
2006-06-25 23:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by Earthman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a selfish jerk, but that is why they say you can't pick your in laws. I would go out of my way to irritate him by being nice. Tell him how much you appreciate his kindness to your son, how new families can be hard but his Christian attitude has made it so much easier. He knows he is a jerk & you can remind him without seeming to be mean. He will know he has not done any of these things & know that he is a big old fat jerk!! Good luck - I had great in laws - so sorry you did not get lucky.
2006-06-25 23:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like my step-dad....We borrowed 1 of his cars a while back because ours was messed up. We meaning my fiance, our 2 kids, and I. Anyways, they don't use it so I practically begged to buy it off of him and he said he didn't want to sell it. Not even a month later, he GAVE it to his nephew who has no kids or anything. I thought that was a bunch of crap. What I'm getting at, is there are quite a few people out there that only think of themselves and BLOOD relatives. My fiance has blood nieces and step nieces and nephews but we love them all the same. I think it was extremely rude of your father-in-law to do that to you. Seriously, this is a CHILD. No offense, but it seems like your f-i-l is a self-centered, uncaring jerk. Sorry if that offends you
2006-06-25 23:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that was very mean and cruel of your in laws to behave that way. Your son is a child and cannot help it if the in laws don't like you or him, he did not ask to be brought into the situation. I would certainly let my in laws know what a terrible thing that was for them to do. Who knows...one day they may need you for a favor and because of their behavior they may get a big fat NO too.
2006-06-25 23:07:33 · answer #6 · answered by sapphireblaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's totally wrong. Regardless of blood relatedness, I would never deny a child a ride home from school, even if I had no clue who they were, and they just came up and asked. I think your wife's family is being ridiculous.
2006-06-25 23:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ aichan ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I feel sorry for you that you had to find out what kind of people they were after you were married. Just try to protect your son. There is no need to let him know the situation. It would only hurt his feelings. Show him all the love you can and keep those people away from him.
2006-06-25 23:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by Jade Ariana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a crying shame to stare any child in the face and tell them that you don't care about them, you don't like them and their not wanted, and that's basically what they did. they are cruel and vicious. you should print off this page and send it to them via email or registered letter so they can see that everyone else thinks they're ASSHOLES too. they should be truley ashamed.
2006-06-25 23:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by charles r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just a cruel sad man. Your son is better off not being around him anyway.
He was wrong in my book; it was not nice.
2006-06-25 23:10:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a shame - he is a child and he should not have to suffer and besides it was not like it was out of the way and even if it was.....
2006-06-25 23:05:21 · answer #11 · answered by MS L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋