I'm trying not to be paranoid, but I'm also trying no to be a door mat. His ex-gf just came back from a trip. Am I seeing something that isn't there or am I being blind?
2006-06-25 15:51:57 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The reason this is a problem is he used to email me like 20 times a day no exaggeration and then when his ex came back it stopped abruptly and when I email or call he doesn't respond
2006-06-25 15:59:38 · update #1
First rule...never think you are looking too much into it,that's called intuition my dear.Well done!!!You seem smart enough,I can't see you letting yourself be treated like a doormat,but wait a couple of days and ring.He is either,waiting for you to ring,with the ex girlfriend,or not interested.You must learn to know when a guy isn't interested it shows if you know what to look for,not that hard?Don't sell yourself short.goodluck.
2006-06-25 15:59:02 · answer #1 · answered by fairie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait until he calls or emails you back never ever call or email him back. Let him chase you not you chase him. When he does don't fuss on him tell him how glad you are to hear from him. It will make him want to call you more never complan about things because no one nver likes to hear ppl complaning all the time. Give him a compliment because guyz love to hear them to tell him that you loved something he did or does. See guyz are not like girls they are completey different when we bond we talk. When they bond is when they play games with each other trust me on this! Make him feel like he is needed and never ever talk about your exboyfriends or how you don't like this girl or anything. Always say nice things and be nice trust me on this when I tell you it truns guyz on when ur nice to other people and what ever you do don't let him catch you because then he will become bored with u and move on be mysterious always and don't do a lot of talking and don't ask a lot of questions and don't ask why he hasn't called you or anything he has his on life and you don't need to know about it. I know thats stupid but its true if u don't ask him questions then u look mysterious and guyz love that! I made that hug mistake and when I realized it ,it was to late I already lost him! I now fully understand guyz now. I'm trying to help u not to make that same mistake please try what I told you ,then you will finally see how to keep him right where u want him and let him be the leader of the realtionship let him feel like a man and take the lead its hard I know but trust me it will all pay off in the end!
2006-06-25 23:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you cleared things up for me by adding the part about him emailing you multiple times a day. Okay if he's been inoring your calls for the past two days and he's not in the hospital or detained somewhere he's got some explaining to do.
You obviously care about him or you would not be asking for advice.
If you don't hear from him tomorrow as hard as it my be stop making attempts to contact him. Some guys will act an *** in order to get their girlfriend to break up with them to save them from being the "Bad Guy".
Good luck and don't stress about it to much.
In a relationship I feel respect & consideration are important factors. Even if he's up to no good he could have been more tactful.
2006-06-25 23:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by cpu_doc67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, stalking him is not the answer. Don't make a big deal out of 2 days. Think about it. He has a life too. Just call him. You know we guys don't have to do all the calling you know. You girls could pick up the phone sometimes too. He is not in the relationship by himself. Just call him. If that is to hard, e-mail him or IM him.
2006-06-25 22:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by Listamato 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your worried about the ex girl friend a lot of that would have to do with the was there break up went such as was if because they were mad or jus a mutual thing but really i dont think 2 days is that serious maybe a week is like if you know that he is not that busy but you should jus be patient
2006-06-25 22:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by Jack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhm. You're being blind. It's over. Find someone else, he can't make up his mind about you which means it's never gonna work. You're not meant to be together. It's ok. Life isn't over. There's plenty of fish in the sea. Go on yahoo personals or Americansingles.com. good luck.
2006-06-25 22:56:03 · answer #6 · answered by Spirit-X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Careful now...It may not be anything. Maybe he was busy with work or school or maybe family stuff. You don't have any proof of anything, but then again you have to trust your instincts some times. Talk to him and see what's up. How long were you guys going out? Good luck with everything
2006-06-25 22:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by simpleplan0013 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally know what you are going through, im not saying you should'nt call him but dont be the one to beg. So far you've tried getting in contact with him but he doesnt respond. So call him and ask him straight out what and who he really wants.
2006-06-25 23:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by soccer_chic_254 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 1st of all... if he used to e-mail and call u everyday...somethin is wrong. he might still have a thing for his ex. Juss talk 2 him n see what is goin on.
2006-06-25 22:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by SJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have a relationship that you would usually talk every day then yes that's unusual and you need to get to the bottom of it. do you need to wait for him to call you? can you call him and ask when you can get together instead? if he's only giving you crumbs and won't commit to spending time with you, something's up. those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing.
2006-06-25 22:56:20 · answer #10 · answered by MrsTee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋