I am ready to start venturing out into the real world again - but i have no one to watch my six month old. I always used to meet guys in bars (hence the single mom thing now) but I'm really trying to be good now so i left that whole scene behind. Now I bring my daughter with me everywhere i go. She gets all the smiles and i become just the mommy who answers questions and gives out advice. Do guys automatically think that a girl with a baby is married? What's a good way to say I'm single without wearing a "Hi - I'm a single mom" nametag? (and not sounding needy in the process)
2006-06-25 15:40:28 · 20 answers · asked by splashy451 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be yourself and don't try and hide the fact that you have a child. Online dating isn't bad if you careful or met through a friend. Don't met someone in a bar because most of the people in a bar aren't grown up enough to handle a gf with a child!
2006-06-25 15:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by ash 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know most of the guys you want to meet are directly in front of you on a daily basis, at work, the UPS delivery guy, the Fed-Ex guy, the guy that change the water for the office, the guy down the hall in the next office, at the noon gathering place.
You have to be especially on the look out for those guys that speak to you on a daily basis, like in the mornings when you arrive at work or the evening when you are getting off from work, why do you think they are speaking, they are waiting for a sign from you that you acknowledge them.
Does your office or employees go to the local bar for a drink after work? Oh boy a treasure chest for you.
The entire local arena is available for your pickings,speak up let those guys know that you are single and want to have a drink with them. Most of them have children, ask about them, go on the offense lady, ask if they are married and have someone in their life? Suggest some type of gathering or meeting such as church if that interest you. If it does not there are other things to do, a college football game or your local high school football game on Friday nite, especially if you are still in the same city that you attended high school in. They are fun and inexpensive.
I hope this has been of some use to you, good luck.
"FIGHT ON"
2006-06-25 16:02:25 · answer #2 · answered by Skip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried online dating? Are there any programs in your town for single parents? Have you tried joining a church (even a non-dominational one)? Are there any organizations you're interested in that you could join or volunteer programs? There are plenty of places to meet men other than bars. Once people get to know you word will get around that you're single and looking. Let all your friends know that you are on the look out for a good man, they may know someone or meet someone to set you up with. Go on as many dates as you can. Some guys are afraid to date a woman with children because they're afraid you're just looking for a father-figure to step in, but those men are immature and a waste of your time. You'll find a quality guy don't give up!!
2006-06-25 15:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm also a single mother. Just smile at the cute guy as you would normally. If he freaks over your beautiful daughter, he's not worth it anyway. Put you and your baby first, the rest will fall into place.
2006-06-25 15:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try joining a single parents group (sometimes you can find a Yahoo! Group in your area for it). Also when you see a guy that is interested, just ask them if they want to go have coffee or something. Not a date, just go talk. Make friends first, lovers later. :-)
2006-06-25 15:46:25 · answer #5 · answered by Crazy Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try church, they have single dances in most major cities, check your local newspaper, for things to for single parents. I'm glad your not looking in a bar, not that you can't go for a night out, but usually if you meet them in a bar and you hook up, well if you need them that's where you'll find them.
2006-06-25 15:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try meetings at an organization called Parents without Parnters. Look in the phone book.
2006-06-25 15:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single dad/ look for someone like me that understands the demands of being a single parent. personally i wont even consider going out with someone who doesn't have kids,
2006-06-25 15:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by error file not found 404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I sure wish single Moms would wear signs(just kidding)But Ive got about the same problem, single Dad with 3 girls who I love more than anything.Good Luck and hope you find your answers,If ya learn any secrets please let me know.
2006-06-25 15:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by MidwestDad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually they do not automatically think you are married, there are lots of single mothers.
If you meet a guy who freaks out cause you have a kid, he isn't worth having anyway, you need find someone who likes you for who you are, and you are a single mother, there a lots of guys out there, don't settle for one you have to lie about your child to
2006-06-25 15:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by butchell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋