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Ive been with the same girl since I was 15, im 21 now. We just had a baby boy last November. We just split up the first week of may. Now I know u say that the easiest way to get over someone is to keep busy and do different things but it is harder for me. The past six years this girl has been my world, we talked about marriage and I even bought her a ring a few yrs ago. When I wake up in the morning shes the first thing I think about and when I go to bed at night shes the last thing I think about. I think about her all day everyday and I cant get her out of my head. Its especially hard for me when we have to trade for visitation with my son and actually seeing her. The worst part is she acts like it doesn't even bother her and shes just moving on with her life without any second thoughts or doesn't care how I feel. All this after six yrs in a relationship and a son together. I need any advice from anyone that might help me out in my situation. Thanks for your help.

Answer 1

hi sweetie, first i want to tell you that i am so sorry, i really do understand sometimes i think death is easier, i went through this myself a few years ago, and it was so hard. but, you know a friend told me something that really hit home, she said as long as you are both alive there is a chance that you could get back together. simple but so true, never think for a minute that she has forgotten you, how could she each time she sees your baby , she sees you, each time she passes a special place or hears a song, she thinks of you. she only needs some time to grow and think, and maybe things will be better than they have ever been if you get back together. take this time to do some things for yourself, let her miss you and wonder where you are and who you may be with, use this time to better yourself, just give her some time and force yourself to get out there and do things as long as she knows you are waiting for her , she will take her time, but the minunit someone sees you with another woman an tells her, it will freak her out! good luck and GOD BLESS.

Answer 2

Was it really so bad that you had to split up after 6 years and a child? People are so quick today to just leave something because it becomes difficult. But for the sake of your son, maybe you should try to work things out. If you still love her, and it's obvious from the way you talk about her, you do, then maybe try having a talk with her, without your child there, and see if things can be worked out. If you're both willing to work on whatever was wrong it will be worth it in the long run.

Answer 3

Sounds like you're having a rough time of it. I've been there before and unfortunately there are no quick fixes for what you're going through. As boring as it may sound, time heals all wounds and you're just going to have to go through this one day at a time. Eventually IT WILL GET BETTER! I know that's hard to believe right now but I'm 48 years old and I know it's true. As hard as it may be to see your ex acting like she doesn't care, it probably means she has already thought things through and has moved on with her life, although that doesn't necessarily mean with someone new. The problem you face is that you still love someone who doesn't love you the same way. Unfortunately you can't make someone love you. I've tried to rekindle a relationship with someone who has moved on and it never works. You just need to suffer through the pain and it will eventually lessen. I know what I'm telling you isn't going to give you the quick fix you're looking for but I hope you know you're not the only person who has had to go through this and you certainly won't be the last. Just be strong and keep looking forward. It's the only direction you can move to help heal yourself. Good luck!

Answer 4

she is probably trying to get over you as well.. Having a child does change everything. A first love is always hard to get over, but the question you need to ask yourself is why did you break up... If you don't know, you needed to find out. YOu will always care about her, especially since she is your child's mom. Figure out why you broke up and if its legit then you know you shouldn't be together. TO move past, not get over as you will never be over her completely, surround yourself with things that make you happy. (friends, sports, etc.) Don't dwell on her and what's gone, but think about what you have. YOu have a son, and a bright future. You will think about her for quite a while, but as time passes so will all the strong thoughts and the memory of you as a twosome will disipate and you can move on and care for your son to the best of your ability.

Answer 5

*sniff* That is a touching story. You still love her! *sigh* It may be hard, but tell her all the things you just told everyone here. What can it hurt? You are already divorced. Next time you guys are alone together let all your feelings out (but not too fast). You are gonna have to tell her sometime. It is gonna be hard living with those feelings and her never knowing. There could be hope for your relationship! *sigh*

Answer 6

I know it is hard for you to accept this but if she wanna act like a b*t*c* than let her. And as hard as it is for you ,the best thing to do is PRETEND you dont care. As long as she sees that you need her she is in control but if you turn it around and act like she is just your baby's mom than she will be the one wanting you. I know you cant just not care but all you need to do is pretend and the two of you will trade positions. Try it and see!!

Answer 7

Well its clear you upset her and she broke up with you. What i suggest is to wait for a family holiday and ask her if you can all spend it together. When with your child and six year partner you should ask her to forgive you for the sake of your child and tell her you still love her.

Answer 8

Ask her how she feels and then move on