lately Most of the time my mother and I argue ..is this the begining of the oficial end to our relashionshi?

Question

I resent my mother for always criticizing what I do or say.I feel like she dont love me anymore or dont want to have me around ,even duh I live in my own house by my self.Not at hers,she attak me everytime she can...with negativities.it hurts my feeling terribly.I dont need her to be a friend but the mother she is to me.

Answer 1

argument with mother is universal.

Answer 2

I am sure you are a wonderful person and your Mom is good too. There comes a time in the lives of all of us to see the secret world of adults. How can it exist and you have been so blind. Trust me it is ages old but very real . The second vocabulary is used as is the hand communication. Relax you are yourself and nothing else will make you happy but you have to learn more. Mom is forever but a major difference exists in your sex life from the rest of the family. Just take time and be sort of a spy. You will have to overcome some real bad feelings as you learn but so do the other outsiders. Trust me for a while till you get a clearer picture.There is a lot of group control in life. If you reach out to help the others in this you will learn faster. Some of the winners are about pretending to be depressed so be wary. God knows all about this stuff so relax.

Answer 3

I am sorry that you are having issues with your Mom. If you have your own place, obviously you are grownup. Sometimes, parents, particularly Mothers have a hard time letting go. She might even know that her verbally negative attacks hurt you. You know what? Forgive her and keep on being her daughter. Whenever you can, take her to lunch, don't allow her to go negative on you. Combat every negative word she says with something wonderful and positive about her and about yourself. Send her "encouragement" cards. Let her know you love her and need her as your mother. THEN, have the talk with her. Hold her hands and look into her eyes and let her know that the things she says hurt you and you want her to be a positive influence in your life. Then give her a hug and kiss. This might not change her, but you will have made a very big step in the mother-daughter process and you'll feel good about it. That's the most important thing. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

maybe now if you are grown and out of the house it is time to start that friendship relationship with your mom. My mom and I get along lots better when she is giving me a opinion as a friend. Then I do not take what she is saying as critical. Good luck

Answer 5

i'm sure she loves you. sometimes moms are critical cuz they want everything perfect for their children and think they know what is best for you. talk to her and let her know how you feel. open communication lines and discuss your feelings. your relationship is evolving and changing as you grow older and even though she is your mom first and foremost, she can still be your friend. there will never be an end to your relationship unless you let it. i'm sure she doesn't want that. she is your mom for life and nothing can change that. when you have your own children you will understand this bond even better. good luck.

Answer 6

I checked your Q&A so I could see your profile. You have alot of issues with your family and mental stability. Hang on, pretty lady! You really need to find good therapists or support group. It might seem harsh, but I truly believe a lot of your problems might stem from your own inabilities to cope in certain situations

Answer 7

When I was a teenager, my mother was my worst enemy. Isn't that usually how it is? I am now 22, and my mom is my best friend. I just had to learn not to be such a bit**. Things will get better. Give it time.

Answer 8

I know that what u r now going through is not easy.
So if at any time u should need a shoulder to lean on
or just someone who'll listen,
Just call / sms / mail
Ajay Mehra at 30427171, 9310057171,
[e-mail]
And u know that I'll always b there

Answer 9

try to talk to her try make it better