my life is complety going no where. im 15 years old going 16. the reason i work 2 jobs is because my mother is single and i have to help pay bills in order to live in a decent area. she gets mad at me if i go to school or should i say throws hints at me that i should be helping her. but i want to have and education so i want be like that depending on my child to help pay bills. im really thinking leaving and going to live my boyfriend atleast ill be able to get an education. but i dont want to leave my little sister behind because she will be living the same life im living what should i do ...????
2006-06-25 14:24:38 · 13 answers · asked by yoshi_gurl08 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Go to school. Talk to a counselor about getting help. Don't move in with a boyfriend. Having a job and helping to pay for things will help your family and you later, but not going to school will mean that you lose the opportunity to find soemthing better for yourself. If the counselor cannot help you, go to a church leader, call social services, keep asking for help until you find the kind you need. Keep going to school.
2006-06-25 14:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by bortiepie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God will not put anymore on u then u can bear boo. I'm sorry to hear this, but I can truly say, u should not be working yet. What State R U from. What is wrong with ur mother, she of all people should what u to get an education to better urself. Im 32, but when I was 15 my mother didnt want me working at all, she wanted me to focus on my education and the only thing I had to do was my chores and my homework. I walked out of high school with a 3.0, senior year I was partying..ANyway..Is it possible you can stay with your grandmother or something. Sit down with your mom and come to some terms, can I work in the summer time full time and in the fall for school work part-time. Or try to emancipate urself, so u can move out of the house and take ur little sister with you..I'll pray for u boo, Read the Bible. Phil.4:13 helped me thru so much. It says I can do all things thru Christ which stregthens me..Believe me Prayer Works and by reading this passage it has helped me so much.
2006-06-25 21:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by VivaciousandSexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should do is contact a school counselor, then hang on for a a REALLY rocky ride. They will probably start by having a conference with your mother, and possibly with Child Protective Services.
Chances are, you & your sister might be placed in temporary custody in a foster care situation or with a close relative, OR your mother will be so completely PO'd at you for contacting someone that she'll make your life a living hell.
However, you need to stand up for yourself. You're right - you DO need an education, and you are also very valiant for wanting to protect your little sister from a fate similar to yours. Don't wait to get the help you so desperately need!
2006-06-25 21:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting a good education will help you and your mother later on. Maybe you could do an online course so you can be at home. I think moving in with your boyfriend would cause more problems. Men are demanding and you don't need more stress now.
2006-06-26 01:09:14 · answer #4 · answered by Lou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your area offer the work program in your school you should go for that but do not drop out education is very important. As for living with your boyfriend that is not a good idea.
2006-06-28 11:41:46 · answer #5 · answered by nanimos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you girl. And I give you kudos for being a strong person. I think living with your boyfriend would just make things worse with your mom. I suggest spending many nights with him, if you so chose. But living there full time I dont think you should do. If your being hurt alot and you cant deal with it, thats when you call the police. I would wait until your of legal age to leave your mother (18). I also suggest speaking to a councler.
I wish you the best!
2006-06-25 21:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by Kyle W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once upon a time I too helped my mother to keep her house. Then one day she sold it and everything else and now I live in a garden shed, not with her.
Your education should be your number one priority, she is selfish to think that you should be deprived of an education. To be a good mother, she should send you to school so you can be someone in life.
2006-06-25 21:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by revoltix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, I feel so bad for you. Please stay in school, you are right that is your ticket out. don't move in with your boyfriend there are other options. You sound like a great kid. I've been a single mom and helping out is great, but you shouldn't have to do so much. your education should be the top of your moms list. Do find someone to talk to. there is help out there. good luck and God bless.
2006-07-01 23:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by TLM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this conversation is going to be wierd but here goes, have your mom go to court and gte child support from your dad.about your job situtation, stop working, what is your mama doing? doesnt she have a job,have her get two jobs why you?she is the mother not you, quit one job and make her take care of you. thats her job not yours, you are her daughter not her mother.be a teenager like you are suppose to be, dont leave your sister, is ther any way your sister can go to your boyfriends too. how old is she?dont leave your sister!dont let your mom ruin your life. stay in school!!! goodl uck.
2006-06-26 00:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mother sounds overwhelmed by her situation and her judgement is clouded by her desperation. you do need to continue your education and keep a part time job to help out. that's the life you've been given, so unfortunately, you do need to continue to earn some money to help out. don't move in with your bf as that will just complicate things and make your relationship with your mother worse. family counselling would definitely help you all. if you can't find free help somewhere, maybe suggest you have weekly "family meetings?"
2006-06-25 23:09:46 · answer #10 · answered by MrsTee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋