Do all kids grow up to hate their parents?

Question

I mean my husband and I don't like are parents, and are afraid our children will hate us too.

Answer 1

I think we are all afraid of becoming our parents. If our parents actually did their job, we will probably love them because of who they are and the fact they gave us life and did the best they could raising us. But as far as liking who they are, is another story. When we have our own children, we are determined to give them more than we had and to do a better job than our parents. The basic skills of parenting, automatcially go into action, once we have our first child. Then we have this idea of how we are going to raise them. Being as parenting can't be totally predictable, in a crisis situation we have yet to think thru or come to grasp with, we respond the exact same way we were raised. That is why at times we hear our parents words coming from our mouths. Maybe if we hadn't been given that edge that causes us to hate our parents, we would of never of left home and started living our own life's. If our parents had made everything excessible and easy on us, why would anyone want to leave the nest? So maybe the "breaking away" snydrome, is a process for those of us that know we need to leave home, and for the parent that understands, a time comes that a child needs to emotionally detach, plays a big part in the feeling process. I relate to you (I think hate is a strong word) disliking your parents, and yes I worried about my children hating me. They have all left the nest now, and at times I am confronted with a story from the past, about something I did, or didn't do, and they tell me now how they feel about i. So as long as we continue to communicate and I never cut off their need to express opinions and their feelings from their past, I think we are going to be all right. I admit I made many mistakes, but I tell them, I was doing the best I could, and love was at the root of it, always.

Answer 2

My parents are two of the most amazing people I have ever been around. I'm very proud to have the parents I have, they weren't perfect, but they made me the person I am today. I'm 29, and have never hated my parents, and all my close friends get along with their parents. Don't expect your kids to hate you, I'm sure you have learned how not to be parents, and you will do just fine. Tell your kids every day that you love them, and don't be afraid to discipline them either. They will grow up to appreciate you as parents.

Answer 3

No, they don't. Sometimes it can be very difficult to get along with them though! I love my parents but that doesn't mean we always get along. There have been times in the not too distant past that we haven't spoken for a while and I have been really angry or upset with them. I believe that the only way to have a good relationship with them is to tell them exactly how you feel about things and for them to do the same with you.

However, my husband tried and tried this with his father to no avail. After 30 years of trying to get along with him, my hubby finally realised that nothing he could say or do would change his father and decided to sever all ties with both his parents. There are some things a parent has done which with a lot of talking and patience can be sorted. His father refused to even admit there was a problem other than with my husband. I still have to see the guy because our children spend time with their grandparents. I can be pleasant with him but it is strained.

Answer 4

Not necessarily…there is a time in everyone’s life when they want to get away from their parents and it may seem like they don’t like them… but in the long term, it all depends on what the parents did while the kids were growing up. If they spend time with their kids and show that they care, then there’ll be less chance that their kids will not like them. If the parents show that they don’t care, or if they’re never there, then the kids will resent them. Ultimately, though, it all depends on the kids.

Answer 5

Maybe you don't like your parents for something bad they did to you. However, that is family that is the only thing you can't choose, be a little bit nicer to them. Your kids will porbably be the same with you. it's karma. Although, if they hit you and were horrible to you and you treat your kids alright, no cause you hada reason to. But if you don't , karma is a *****. Just love your folks and educate your kids the best you can. Don't worry about that. Seriously though, if your parents haven't done anything bad to you and you hate them or dislike them then you are a waste of sperm.

Answer 6

I love my parents NOW for a while I didn't it took me a long time to figure out that my parents did the best they knew how. But my parents weren't abusive or drug addicts or anything of that nature our family had our problems but I think as we all grew up we started to realize that parents are people too not just our parents

Answer 7

I am 17 and I don't hate my parents at all. I confess, that sometimes I don't like how they won't let me do some thing and stuff like that bbut in the end, I know they are only doing what they think is best. My parents don't hate their parents either

Answer 8

All kids at some point will think they hate their parents.... if their parents are not to blame it is nothing but a stage, then the child will over time realise he/she does not hate them.

Answer 9

NO, of course, no. It's because parents don't encourage their sons to share nice things of life AS WELL as tough ones. Passing of experiences and sharing them make a family united not only because they support each other in the progress, but also because this way you build a net that supports all of you, having a lot in common.

Answer 10

Do you want to be their friend? or their parent? Being a parent is a thankless task, but if you take the time to discipline your children, they will be better for it when they are grown.

A good book I would like to recommend is "Parenting With Love and Logic"