How can I handle criticism?

Question

Everytime when I try to do my best at something and I do some simple mistake I always get critized.

So I asking, also, how can I stop the person from criticizing me before it does more harm than good?

Answer 1

This is a very complicated question because there are elements that we as views don't know about. One of the questions I would want to know is if this criticism is coming from a family member--a friend or a job. Each have their own unique way of being dealt with.

(If you're getting criticism from your mother--you'll get that the rest of your life -- every mother thinks that's their job.)

In the very broadest terms, here's some suggestions:


How To Handle Criticism?

Criticism can be of three kinds:

1. That which is justified and fair.
2. That which may be justified but is delivered in a hostile manner.
3. The unjustified or brutal put-down.

Most people react badly to all three types of criticism. We tend to take critical remarks as a direct attack on our total worth. People in the arts and professions, if they good at what they do, use constructive criticism to their advantage. But most of us go to great lengths to avoid getting criticized.

The first step in learning to handle criticism: Make sure you are really being criticized.

Most of the time, if you bother to examine the situation, no criticism was really intended.

Also, do not invite criticism by such asking insincere questions such as – Did you really like it? Or How did I do? If you can't take a frank and honest answer to such questions you are better off not asking them.

If a criticism is justified, see it in its proper perspective.

If a criticism is unjustified, practice control. Stay cool. Do not give the person who has unfairly criticized you the satisfaction of knowing he has scored.

It is always a good idea to consider the source. Criticism always hurts. But it should not hurt coming from the ignorant, the rude, the uninformed.

It is not a good idea to brood on criticism. Try to dispose it quickly by judging it as either deserved or unjustified. If it is deserved, make a resolution to correct the fault and then forget it. Do not let criticism poison a whole day.

And, hearing in mind how it hurts, you should not criticize others.

All the best!

Answer 2

the headphones on your avatar make you look a little young and kinda corny........................

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.how do you think you'd handle that? honestly, if you felt a flush of anger you should really work on this. best way to handle criticism is by always being classy and polite -- defend yourself with facts if it is truly an incorrect attack, but for normal criticism just say "ok, thanks for the feedback"

that way you will never be rightfully criticized for being too sensitive, unable to accept input, or for resorting to cuss wods or defensiveness when others share their opinion -- everyone has a right to do that

you will be so better off if you just learn to accept the criticism and focus on learning from the info by not making those mistakes again -- seriously, if you really did make the mistake then say "thank you" for someone poinitng it out and move on -- if you're taling baout all of this in a work / business situation it is going to be crucial for you to handle criticism, those moments will prove to be the most valuable for your success as they will teach you more than just "good job" and you will in turn learn a lot about the person the come from (remember, "thank you" truly consider the info given and take it as a moment to learn something about that other person and how they work)

Answer 3

That depends on who is criticizing you.

I had a job where I was expected to be unreasonably happy and laid back ALL THE TIME no matter what. These people just wouldnt accept that I was going to have bad days. People like this are toxic people. I quit the job and got these people out of my life. If you can just surround yourself with people who are not so demanding and inconsiderate you will be better off.

Answer 4

Tell them you know that you ******* up and don't need to be constantly criticized. I hate it when people do that. It makes them feel bigger to make others feel inferior. Don't allow others to treat you that way... after all, we teach people how to treat us. You can handle criticism by reminding yourself that you're human and therefore NOT perfect. Thus you will always make mistakes, as long as you acknowledge those mistakes and try not to make them in the future there's nothing else more you can do.

Answer 5

Laugh it off no matter how hard it may seem. After a while, they will ease off and it will get easier for you to find ways to better handle this bad situation.
Some people are just insecure, therefore they take it out on other people. This only makes you the better person. When they criticize, just go with it. They will eventually get bored of it, and move on to their own pathetic lives.
Hang in there! :)

Answer 6

Handling criticism can't be easy. It depends on what type of it is. Constructive or negative. Like yesterday i was on a church cleaning crew. One of my work associates was observing me and in the end, she criticized me of my time limits and other things. I tried to cope and understand. By the time i got home, i was overwhelmed with grief and sadness. So i listened to one of my Christian hymns. "There is a balm in Gilead." But i was angry too. I wanted to take my rage out on her but i didn't. I let it go. In the future, things will be better again when Christ comes again along with his blessed Mother Mary.

Answer 7

you can learn to accept criticism gracefully, listen , and then evaluate what is being said, does it have any merit, if it does you can learn from it, and perhaps improve on the small error you made. Then you will find that there is lot criticism that has no value at all. you will not be able to learn anything from it, so you simply ignore it and go on with your life

Answer 8

When you feel the criticizim coming/hold you hand up and say
STOP.... let these people KNOW that.............this is it....no more.. your taking a stand... and your NOT going to take it anymore.. We are all humans and we exceed at certain things... We are not perfect at everything..

And screw those people who nit pick at a small mistake you make they are LOSERS... I know a TON of them and you know what... I am in my late forties and I have slowly gotten rid of them... ak... stopped calling them, stopped socializing with them. They bring me DOWN. I want nice kind people in my life, not critical condescending. ahola's...

Good Luck....

: )

Answer 9

If people do not criticize in front of you they will do it behind you. What may please one person will most likely offend another. Therefore you cant get away from criticizim so ignore all and do what ever makes you feel comfortable in your own skin

Answer 10

There will always be criticisim, and where there is criticisim there will be someone to criticise. The only way to stop it would be if the world were perfect. But until then just ignore it.