im having a baby by a married man what should I do?

Answer 1

Well, you have your choices...give the child up for adoption, have the child and - of course - get child support...and two suggestions - no more married men and use birth control - and maybe a condom might be in order as well...Good Luck and may God Bless you and your child

Answer 2

Well I guess by now you are in tears after seeing all the negative things people are saying, and I think they lost sight of the fact that you asked for help and not judgment. For that, I am sorry.

However lets start from the beginning, first, do you want to have this child? Ask yourself that sincerely, if the answer is no, then you must consider the options along with a doctor at a family planning clinic, a lot of what they can do depends on how many weeks you are into this pregnancy.

If however the answer is yes you want to have the child, then again, take the time to get a doctors advice on what prenatal examinations and all that you are going to have to have done so that you have a healthy child. Get the doctors advice on diet etc. He will give you a blood test to make sure you are not anemic, if you are you will have to take medicine and eat certain foods.
You also need to inform the father that you are going to have his child, advise him he needs to start giving you money to pay for medical exams etc. Use the family planning clinics expertise to find out where and how you can qualify for baby food and formula if you are low on money. Also use the clinics counselor to assist you in filing for child support from the father. You must do this last thing because otherwise you are depriving your child of the amenities and benefits he or she would have got should the father been your husband. Unless he doesn’t want to make sure you include the father in visitation and all, your child should know who the dad is.

The third and last option is if you want to have the child but want to give it up for adoption, Again, use the family planning clinics expertise to get this done. They will point you at the right agencies and possibly even a parent couple that will shoulder the cost of your prenatal exams and the babies birthing, a lot of adoptive parents will also have the mother come and stay with them so that they can feel like they are a part of the child’s life since they cannot have one themselves, what ever the case may be, you can pick the adoptive parents if you desire.
I hope this helps, there is so much more, but you will find that out as you go along..I wish you luck and happiness no matter what your choice may be.

Answer 3

1) Set everything else aside (your ego, your heart, your needs) and protect your child. Get a good lawyer before you do anything.
2) Say good-bye to the cheater. If he did it to her, he'll do it to you. No matter how much he may "love" you, no matter what he might say, there are NO exceptions to this truism.
3) If at all possible, try to have a civil relationship with the wife. If there are other children, they will be your child's siblings and her support will be essential if they are ever to have any kind of relationship in the future.
4) God bless you. Every single person has done things they regret bitterly. Forgive him, and more importantly, forgive yourself but learn from your mistakes and do whatever you can to help ease the pain your actions have caused or you're a user and a fool.

Answer 4

Make sure you have proper medical care for you and your baby. Tell the father that you are pregnant because he is as responsible for the baby as you are. Most likely you will find that he will think you are wanting him to leave his wife for you but most men would not with or without a child. Whatever your future plans is remember that you need to take care of yourself and your baby so try and limit your confrontations and stress. If he disavows you or says it's not his then not to worry. DNA always trumps someone's denial but hopefully he will step up to the plate and help you and the child and also add financial support that you will need. As far as his wife is concerned ... it is his responsibility to tell her or not tell her, that's part of the responsibility he must now accept for his choices.

Now isn't the time for blame now is the time to take care of yourself and that baby inside you. If you haven't seen a doctor yet then make an appointment and get started with medical care. Don't make any rash quick decisions either, under duress or stress.

Answer 5

Nothing but have your baby and love it no matter what!! Do you LOVE this person? Is he planning on leaving his wife? Do they have children? All this you will probably think about!! I was with a married man before but I didn't have a child with this person but it was complicated. You need to think about YOU AND YOUR BABY RIGHT NOW!! Good Luck!!

Answer 6

Give the baby birth. And unless he wants it, put it up for adoption, or cheat on the married man, with a man whose not married, but cares about you.

Answer 7

In d first place y d hell did u get involved with a married man ! O did he gv u the same old story abt him splitting with his wife n that his wife does not understand his needs etc.......He wil get a divorce soon n marry u ! Men they never change , do they ? The only thing u can do now is , 2g birth n plan a life with yr baby without the father...remember, what u do now, breaking up another family yrs will b broken 2 n IF HE CAN DO THIS 2HIS WIFE , honey b'lieve me HE CAN DO IT 2U 2..........so wake up. Never so DIE o ITs 2 2 LATE 4U, coz its not.......HAVE COURAGE n FAITH IN YRSELF. U DESERVE BETTER

Answer 8

stop f*cking married men ya stupid idiot

If he screwed around on his wife with you, he'll screw around on you with someone else. Hope you have a good job and you are able to afford to raise that child alone otherwise you best get set for a life of ghetto apartment living, food stamps and welfare.

Guess you should have thought about those things before you jumped in bed with a married a$$hole huh??

If you lay down with the dogs, sooner or later you'll catch fleas!

Answer 9

not sleep with married men would have been my advice a couple months ago but since you are a little late for that, then you need to do whatever you think is right. if you can handle the baby on your own then you need to do that, if not then you need to give it up for adoption. give the kid a chance to have a good life

Answer 10

You knew he was married before having sex with him right? You have the choice. Raise baby without your married guy, or ruin his life and family and lose everything you once had. Good luck.