okay, so i have a boy firend of 2 mo. that i really like alot . He has been with some girls previously and done stuff sexually with them but that was 2 years ago(we are both 16 now) the reason i feel bad is because i told him before he asked me out that i could never have sex with him because i'm waiting for marriage. He respected that and said he would never push for that in our relationship. However i cna never get over the doubts in my mind that tell m after a few more months he might get bored and break up with me or he might cheat on me because he wants some. He has never given me any reason to have these doubts or anything but i still feel bad. What should i do?
2006-06-25 13:31:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Many people on here say that automatically a guy will get bored and leave, but if you have explained things to him intially, and he's agreed to it (and doesn't think that he'll change your mind with time, but truly doesn't mind), then it does work.
People have told me that I will never be able to keep my boyfriend because I don't want to have sex before marriage, but we try to talk about it, and discuss our feelings on the issue, and though my boyfriend would prefer it if I were slightly more relaxed about the whole sex thing (he is a guy after all), we truly love each other, and he says that now he would never leave me over it (and he did consider it in the very beginning). If you are honest with each other, and if you have a good guy there is no reason why it shouldn't work.
As long as you are caring, and show that you love him in other ways, and understand that this is probably harder for him than for you there is no reason for you to worry. Relationships are not only about sex, thank God.
Also if he does break up with you over it than he wasn't worth it. But I don't think that will necessarily happen. Good luck.
2006-06-25 15:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by Decade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts, but I think the best thing is for you to be true to yourself. If you believe it is very important to wait until marriage, then wait you must. If you two can be friends, then great, but don't waste your time on love at 16. I did, and now I kinda regret it. I could have achieved much more my last year of high school had I not met a girl who I was crazy over, but she only liked me because I was fun to be with....
2006-06-25 20:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by FearDragons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never feel bad for having standards. Do not worry about things that haven't happened yet.
Just hold true to yourself. If at some point a guy tries to pressure you to do ANYTHING you don't want to do then he isn't the right person for you.
Remember that you are the only you that you have!
2006-06-25 20:38:40 · answer #3 · answered by beckini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never feel bad for making this decision, if more people your age were as responsible as you, the statistics of STD's, etc, wouldnt be as high as they are today... Stick to your decision to save your self until marriage, that is highly respectable, if he truly has feelings for you then he will respect you, and be completely happy and content.
2006-06-25 20:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain it to him, he'll reassure u, ull start doubting again a couple weeks later, eventually u two will break up and ull realize he never cheated on you. Or just forget about it now and deal with it if it happens.
2006-06-25 20:35:56 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay true to yourself and never let anyone tell or force you into something you don't want to do. If he leaves you, he"s not worth the trouble and you should consider yourself lucky. Good luck, I applaud your convictions.
2006-06-25 20:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by yooper guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt worry, if he said he wouldnt push you then he wont and that means he respects you. just because he did stuff before doesnt mean he still wants to. he was probably being stupid and immature when he did it anyways. and if he cared about you he wouldnt cheat or get bored. i wouldnt think about it if i was you. if he does cheat on you or pressure you then your better off without him.
2006-06-25 20:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by crank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl girl girl girl girl...
if sex is the only thing that can keep him that you have then he belongs to everybody.
save yourself for marriage, boys and men will say or do any thing to get the panties, this is what you got know.
you have nothing to be sorry about.
2006-06-25 20:38:24 · answer #8 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he said he would wait, give him the benefit of the doubt and see what happens..if he cheats then he didn't respect or love you enough .then i would ditch him
2006-06-25 20:37:13 · answer #9 · answered by dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing .. the guy tells that he like u .. but as a guy he must have sexual life .
2006-06-25 20:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋