i have a boyfriend who i really care for but the problem is his apreance..i mean at first it was fine..he isnt all that ugly but he isnt all that cute either..i mean i have my standards when it comes to guys but i think i let it slide a little too much..its not only the way he looks..its the way HE ACTS..he acts like a little kid sometimes and its SO ANNOYING..i tried tlking to him about it and its gotten kinda better but then theres..his hygiene..its not like he smells bad or anything..but like he eats like a PIG and its soo nasty cause after he eats bits n pieces stay around his mouth and its soo gross..i look at my other freinds boyfriends and get jelous cause theirs are much better looking and MATURE! some people think im just worried about what others think and that is kinda true..but my REAL PROBLEM IS telling him how i feel without HURTING HIM..i dont want to loose him cause he is a GREAT BOYFRIEND..he's the best one ive had..HELP ME!
2006-06-25 13:29:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend has to realize that certain behavior is appropriate & other behavior is not. It doesn't sound like he was raised to have too many manners. It would bother me too if my boyfriend acted like that, so the only way to do something about it is to talk to him & tell him how you feel. Maybe you need to tell him that unless he acquires better manners you will not want to be around him!
2006-06-25 13:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by lop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes such a great boyfriend and you love him, you wouldnt care what people think. Its just that you feel like hes making you look bad. Just try to tell him that you think hes went a little downhill since you first started dating and ask him to clean up a lil bit and you will do the same for him if he thinks you have changed. Make it like a couples thing. Tell him you're not saying that he's ugly, just that his manners and maturity have changed since you guys first hooked up. If he says he hasnt changed, video tape him eating or something, or just act like him for a night and see how he feels about you acting like that. Or you could send him on a makeover show or to a manners class or something. LOL Good luck. I hope you get everything worked out.
2006-06-25 20:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by Care Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cares as much for you as you care for him he wouldnt mind you offering some advice on hygiene. I had a b/f that was not my type and after a while I just couldn't handle it and had to go with someone who I thought was more attractive. The best thing that you can do is offer some tips NICELY, but you will never be able to change a man... its no use and will leave you tired out.
2006-06-25 20:32:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get out more, he is not the end all be all.
tell him again or either wipe his mouth after he eats, so now you already have a little boy, meet his mother ask her why he still eats like a five year old.
2006-06-25 20:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you act the same way, so he thinks it ok. You can dump him, change your standards, or help him. If he's the best one, don't do anything to betray or lose him. Don't even consider ending the relationship!
2006-06-25 20:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's a good guy than hang on to him cause their are not a lot of good ones out there. talk to him about the things that are bothering you about his behavior and appearance and be gentle guys tend to have very sensitive egos. but most of all figure out if the things that are wrong with him out weigh the things you love about him. no body's perfect.
2006-06-25 20:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by frsttmshy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point of your relationship is sex and not much else. Go over to his place, have sex, then leave. Don't be seen with him in public.
Problem solved.
2006-06-25 20:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try telling him that he could try and change his act but without insulting him cuz then he'll think that you dont want to be with him
2006-06-25 20:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by Hannah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to dump you and you need to grow up and realize that you can't change people.
2006-06-25 20:33:30 · answer #9 · answered by beckini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him and maybe help get him into an etiquite class.
remember hes a guy
2006-06-25 20:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by sneedman15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋