please answer me please?

Question

Ok on Friday my bf want to see me after work, but I couldn’t go see him because I had a test for Monday so I had to study, he knows how important my test was but he was acting like it was nothing, no matter what he want me to go to see him for a hour, so I said may be I will stop bye and see u, then after I got out work it was 6pm and running I just didn’t fell like going to see him so I called him and I said I am not coming, he said O REALLY OK JUST CALL ME WHEN U ARE DONE AND HE (HUNG UP ON ME)?? And he didn’t call me that night nor the next day, we work together but different areas he didn’t call me or try to come to see me in my area like he always does, we use to go to lunch together he didn’t ask me or nothing I didn’t see him but I seen his car outside so he was at work. And today is Sunday he didn’t call me all day long. I don’t want to call him because he hung up on me, and he is probably thing she didn’t call me too? What should I do I don’t want to be the soft girl but I want this to work? And if he calls me what should I say should I not answer my phone and make him worry more? HELP ME

Answer 1

ask yourself this: why do you want a relationship with someone so selfish, manipulative & insensitive to what's important to you? in your mind, do you think that this guy is the best you can get? is it that you would rather be involved with someone bad for you than be alone?
if you're sticking with him because of the time you two have together, then why are you choosing to keep doing a bad habit?
if you think that he will change or that you can change him or that he will change for you, then, why haven't you learned that the answer to all those expectations is "NO!, no one changes except for themselves. no one can make anyone else change. (and trying to get someone to change is a form of manipulation, no matter what the intent!)
so, why are you in this abusive relationship? for the peace & nurturing? yea, sounds like a lot of that is happening.
good luck & hope you know that you've got the strength to do what's best for you, even if its not the most enjoyable. you'll be better for it.
don't teach & encourage any man that its o.k. to treat a woman less than respectfully!!!

Answer 2

Well, in this situation it seems as though you are going to have to be the mature one and call him. It seems for some reason that he is pissed off at you, and being narcissistic, even though you let him know about your important test.

Call him up, and calmly state to him, "I understand that you may be upset that we could not meet, and I wanted to see you, but I had the test to study for. Why haven't you called me, or spoken to me at work since then?"

See how he responds. If he states that he was upset because you two did not meet, reassure him that you love meeting with him, but sometimes things come up. Hopefully the two of you will then be on the way to making up, and he may understand that he cannot dominate all of your time.

However, if he responds irrationally, or he still seems to be upset over this for no reason, or responds in a way as though trying to make everything your fault and you should cater to him, then you may seriously need to reassess your relationship with him, and whether it is worth being with such a demanding person.

Answer 3

Way too much game playing here. Call him, be honest about how you're feeling. And if he's still having a fit about school being important to you, then just let him go. He should be proud that he's with someone who wants to BE something in life. Good luck to you!!!

Answer 4

Sounds like the control agme to me. Calling him after you told him, you have to study is a good reason for him to be understanding. If he's unset over it, you need to think about moving on.Your studies are a lot more important than his laying a guilt trip on you !!!

Answer 5

Stay in school, better your grammer and wait until he calls you - if he doesn't move on, girl. I assume by the way your question was worded that you are very young...you have so much time to find the right guy.

Answer 6

sounds like you are both suffering from immaturity and he's also suffering from not enough sex. Call him and tell him you are sorry that he was disappointed that you have had a lot of stress and you hope he understands, and that you'd love to see him - name a day and time.

Answer 7

just call.......if you want this to work .....call.....believe me he is upset but still wants to know whats going on. atleast i would...( is it over or not ) my thinking....good luck