Is loss of interest in sex the result of age, or of the length of time in the relationship?

Answer 1

Interest can be kicked up a notch by another person or another approach. It's proof that the psyche is the prime element. If there's no fire in any of your relationships, you"re going to get old fast. Remember that you have to be able to relate to persons in a non-sexual way and try to establish nonsexual friendships before your mind will be able to understand your own role in a sexual relationship.
Too many people seek out the chemistry of sex before they understand how the opposite sex can find and fill the voids needed to complete their partner as God has intended. Don't teach your children to "grow up to be cowboys." Show them how to be loving in the greatest sense of relationship. Let them be Partners for Always and the fire will never go out. (Indeed, there will be "sparks" everywhere!)

Answer 2

Assuming this refers to a monogomous relationship, I would say it's the result of age...but not just "because you're getting older".

I've seen and read some very convincing and thorough research and various publications recently that make an incredibly strong argument that sex is little more than a short-term addiction of sorts. In fact, several sources said that "...monogomy is unnatural."

Look at the animal world. How many different animals can you name off in 10 seconds that mate for life? Penguins, a breed of vulture, I believe there's a type of worm...

Monogomy (being with only one sexual partner, of course) is actually considered to go against those primal instincts we are all born with. "Spreading the genes" with various other "partners" helps propogate a species in a few ways; genetically, stronger traits from both parents are likely to be passed on to offspring, such as immunities and physiological adaptations; too much propogagtion of closely related beings (especially notable in humans) creates many genetic and physiological defects, creating a less than desirable outlook for the species survival (the offspring are unable of passing down "strong" genes)

So in terms of loss of interest in sex, I don't think it really has much to do with either aging or the length of the relationship. Merely those primal instincts.

Take it for what you will; just putting in my 2 cents :-)

Answer 3

I think both are related to the loss of interest in sex. As you get older, you can lose interest in things you used to enjoy, not just sex. Also, if you've been with the same person for years and no one else, it's important to not get in a rut. Experiment with toys, new positions, etc. to keep some spice in the relationship. I don't think adding new people would help though, it would only add more problems in the long run... Buying a book or video that gives new methods and positions could really improve things in the relationship.

Answer 4

It can't be confirmed. I still 'do it' at 50. It's a matter of desire. Imagine if the whole world is against u at a particular time, and your partner is initiating sex, do you think u will b in the mood? Time on the other hand enhances relationships and what they say, "In due time, 'it' gets better every time. Anybody out ther agrees with me? Hello? Ladies? Guys? I mean those who cherish relationships.

Answer 5

It depends how the relationship is going. I have know people married for many years with a normal sex life. Age may curtail male performance and not interest.

Answer 6

I believe the interest loss is due more to the fact that its always there. When you are around someone all the time, having an intimate sexual moment loses meaning.

Answer 7

Both. As you get older, desire diminishes (but NOT disappears!)and when in an established relationship things kinda get boring after awhile (same old same old)

Answer 8

I think it can be a matter of both.It is something you need to work on to keep it interesting.If you have ruled out medical reasons-get some toys.

Answer 9

well, how long has the relationship been going? and is she or he depressed about something.....that matters......the mind controls so many things.....sex included......give them some time, cuddle, don't initiate sex....let it be their idea....be patient.....love comes in all shapes and sizes......find what fits your lover, and give it to them.

Answer 10

both but as your getting older, there is less sex. but if you dont like your significant other, then you will not like to have sex with that person anymore