My father died. He was 76 and very ill with COPD. I believe he is in Heaven. So ... why am I so sad?

Answer 1

I've lost several dear relatives to death, but -- like "Horsense" -- I always feel much better when I re-read parts of:

When Someone You Love Dies :
....... "It Can't Be True!"
>>> Is It Normal to Feel This Way?
>>> How Can I Live With My Grief?
....... How Can Others Help?
>>> A Sure Hope For the Dead http://www.watchtower.org/library/we/index.htm

Those are just a few of the sections,
but I've ">>>" the parts I suggest for you, based on the little you've shared. Both of my parents are living, but I've lost several dear aunts & uncles -- & even cousins -- to death. It's much easier to adjust when we go over what the Scriptural hope is, even if we've been over it numerous times before.

Sincerely,
"Make Sure of All things; Hold Fast to what is Fine!"
1 Thessalonians 5:21

Answer 2

Loss is loss, no matter what the relationship is. Grief is a process that we all will go through, age, condition has little to do with how we process. You should find comfort in the thought that he is in heaven and make sure that you have a saving relationship with Christ so that you can be with him again. It is normal and healthy to grieve the loss of your father. Go through this process knowing that you love him. Time will heal all wounds.

Answer 3

Your head is being reasonable and knows that he is in a better place but your heart gets in the way and makes you grieve, for the separation, the loss of a role model, companion, guide, friend, Dad.

Your soul needs to go through that process in order to go on...
you're only human.

I'd be more worried if you weren't sad about it.

Answer 4

My gosh, sweetheart! Of course you are sad!! You love your Dad very much and you are grieving his loss... please allow yourself the process you need to go through this. I am sure your Dad is in heaven and watching over you. Nothing can ever take your love away from each other, that is eternal. You are spiritually connected and that will not change. It is just his body that is buried in the earth. His soul, the part that is truly him, will stay connected with you forever!

Answer 5

Because you miss his physical presence. You miss him so much that it literally hurts. Grieving is natural and healthy. As time goes by, the sadness becomes less and less, and you will find yourself smiling at his memory with fewer tears. But you will always miss his physical presence to some degree. You are blessed to have had such a dad.

Answer 6

It is normal to feel sad. You are sad because he is no longer with you here. Not here to talk to, not here to be with. Maybe you think about all the good times you have had. Anyone who has lost someone they care about feels the way you do. In time you will not feel so bad anymore, but you will probably always wish your father was still here with you.

Answer 7

Don't get this the wrong way but I'm glad you're sad.
That means you loved him and still do!!
Think that he will live on through you and your memory of him!
Some part of you will always be sad and some part of you will rejoice each time you think of him.
Meantime, it's OK to mourn and cry and feel sad.
Don't be ashamed of those feelings.
Honor his memory by living proud and don't forget, wherever he his, he loves you too.

Answer 8

Whenever I lose someone I love to death -- even if they were suffering -- I feel sad for myself. It takes some adjusting. Something that always helps me get through it, is re-reading the appropriate sections of this:

When Someone You Love Dies
http://www.watchtower.org/library/we/index.htm

Answer 9

I feel sorry for you and I know how you feel. I lost both of my parents the same year I was born and I believe they will all go to Heaven.

Answer 10

Hello,

It is simply because you miss him, terribly. It does comfort you to know that at least he is in a good place and that he's soul can have eternal happiness.

Take care amd God bless