Well I have been dating my bf for 4 years now and I am madly in love with him have been since we first met. I found out after I had been dating him for 1 and half years that he had cheated on me in the first 6 months when he was away. He did tell only when I kept on pressing him because I knew that something was wrong, he lied to me about it before then. Recently he went away again and I found out that this girl that I don't know gave him a back massage bc his back was sore he said and hugged him when he did well at this competition... Now this other girl that was on the trip is telling everyone that while they were away my bf and the back massage girl slept together. I told him to look me in the eyes and tell me the the truth... He looked me in the eyes and told me that it wasn't true ans that he loved me with all his heart and wouldn't want to lose me so he would have never done that. Should I believe him?
2006-06-25 11:56:20 · 17 answers · asked by Ashlee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask yourself, which situation would you be happier with, being with him and always wondering if he has cheated again, always questioning him and trying to decide if he is telling the truth; or leaving him, hurting for a little while, getting over the hurt, being stress free and eventually meeting someone who won't cheat? Only you can decide if you should believe him or not, but the fact that you are on here ready to let strangers tell you what to do with a man you have been with for 4yrs should speak volumes to you!!!
2006-06-25 12:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by Kaeos 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
The answer once a cheater always a cheater is not true, some people can be rehabilitated and change. But what gets me is why would this other woman say that he slept with the massager if he didn't? You should get a hold of the massager and tell her you ain't mad at her you just need to know if he is still cheating also ask other people that was on the trip wit your b/f ask them all if you have to and if more than 3 people say yes then tell your b/f to kick mud and leave him, if not then forget it but ask around first some people can look you in the eye and lie.
2006-06-25 19:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by apache672004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you want to believe him or not, he's past is a rocky one. I would be very skeptical about his truth this time. It will probably anger him if confronted a second time. At this point I would accept what he has told you and move on. The question of whether to believe him or not is one that you may never know the answer to.
2006-06-25 19:02:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be stupid then believe him. If he cheated once and now you're hearing these things and you have a gut feeling, go with it because you're right. He shouldn't even be letting her give him a massage.
2006-06-25 19:03:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had my share of looking a girl in the eye and lying to her... that doesn't mean too much, he just needs to grow up and you need to find a guy that is grown up...
2006-06-25 19:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by CHRIS S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have already broke up with him!!!! If it happened once it will happen again!!! No matter what he said don't stay with him!!!! It is the best thing to do!!! Your heart might get broken again and you won't be able to bear it!!!!
2006-06-25 19:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by ***ROCKSTAR*** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if all the same signs are there from the last time he cheated. well you know the answer then. dont give him another chance. move on with yr life. it will take time to get over it.
2006-06-25 19:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe him. Throw him a bone! He's obviously learned his lesson.
2006-06-25 19:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by Jimmy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously not he already cheated on you atleast once prolly more than that though. cut your loses leave hm
2006-06-25 19:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
again?hell, ya should have dumped him after the first
2006-06-25 19:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by nate diggitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋