what can i do? i am so worried about everything all the time?

Question

I am so worried about everything i can help it. I try not 2 be like that but i just am. when my grandpa died my life went down hil.

i am depressed alot 2 and i have a hard time making new friends help plz!

i have gone to seek help a long time ago and it worked but now i'm back to my worring again

Answer 1

if you have reached out for help in the past, and it helped you... then i would strongly suggest that you seek professional help again. it sounds like you have a form of an anxiety disorder and it is reoccuring due to the grief that you are experiencing.

Answer 2

Try sitting for about 15 minutes at the beginning of the day and have a cup of warm tea with breakfast, chamomile for instance. While you are having your tea grab a piece of paper and make a list of the things you have to do. Number from 8:00 am at the top and in one hour increments to 6:00 pm being the last. On the other side of the page you have your list you made and give each entry a priority like 1,2,3... or if you have more things you can use A-1, B-1 and so on. When the priorities are done simply start with the 8:00 am side and assign each task a time of day leaving yourself about halfway to have something for lunch while you check to see how your list is doing. Check off the things on the list that are completed and see what is next after lunch. Proceed with the daily things until 6:pm and whether you are finished or not it is time to stop. Review your list and any items not finished simply put a circle to the side and draw an arrow forward inside it. Now put it on your paper for tomarrow and it goes at the top of the list . Tomarrow make your list over tea and include any entries from yesterday and include them in todays schedule. Anything that you do not have a space for and is not a priority do not give it any attention and focus only on what you have to do for today. A day planner might be of value also. I put a journal sheet in my dayplanner and keep it from being two separate tasks. Recap your day and do your journal as you go through the day and you will not fee that pressured worried feeling. I have found that worry is not so much events that are overwhelming but worry is a feeling that is taken away by organizing what you do just a little. Easy to get under control, out of control worry can be debilitating. Try it, the only thing you have to worry about then is how much you are getting accomplished in your life. God bless you and good luck.

Answer 3

Ok here is an exersize you can do:
When you worry ask yourself the following questions:
What is it that I am specifically worried about?
Did I create this situation?
Is it something that effects me personally?
Is it something that I can change or is it something that is out of my hands?
If you can change it take steps to do so it will make you feel empowered. If it is something you cannot change it is not your issue to worry about.


Another thing you can do is make a worry box: Put a slot in it and whenever you worry about something write it down and put it in the box. You have now given the worry to the box and it is no longer yours.

Also and this is hard force yourself to think of something else. Say out loud to yourself "Go away" and litterally go sit in a different spot or walk away and do something else. This will get easier in time. ANd each time the worry comes back say GO AWAY again and think of something else even if it is just thinking about what is in the room. Example I see a chair it is green I see a table it is made out of wood.


If you are religious and this has worked for me read the bible and say a prayer that you are handing over the issue to god.

Answer 4

honey, i know what you're going through and i am SO sorry! My great grandfather died last year on fathers day, and ever since, how much i worry (not to mention the things that i worry about) has multiplied, several times. i went to a doctor, and he said that the stress in my life was taking a toll on my body. i have what is known as an anxiety disorder. i worry about EVERYTHING, ALL the time, and what i started doing, believe it or not, was yoga, and Pilate's. they are very restful, and they help me to clear my mind completely and to not worry so much. i don't know if this will work for you or not, but you might consider giving it a try. i hope you feel better though.

Answer 5

Here's a kicker! try volunteering for the homeless shelters or somewhere there is less fortunate people. Put your focus and a good deed onto someone else. Try a new group of friends...volunteering or joining a club will lead to new friendships and a common goal. One huge step I would take then is getting into a church...one that is right for you, with lots of groups to joing and that has healing services for depression, over eating, weightloss groups. There are many churches that have those resources and more. Good luck and take care.

Answer 6

Were you anxious all the time before your grandpa died? If not then you are experiencing a grief reaction. You do need to grieve, but there are ways to manage your feelings so they dion't overwhelm you. See a therapist, get a book on grief, seek medication for anxiety. All reasonable approaches.
If you were anxious all the time before your grandfather died, then you may have generalized anxiety disorder, which is usually treated with medication.

Answer 7

I used to be like that - I'd stress over every little thing (will i miss the bus, what am i gt do for an assignment), but it was worse for me when my parents were always going away overseas on holidays.
I was like, the plane's gt crash, there will be terrorists ...
Eventually, you just learn that there's really nothing you can do to control those aspects of your life!
It's awful for you that your grandpa died, but there was nothing you could do, right? So you enjoyed your last days together and now you try and just keep the memory alive. But you still gt move on eventually.

Answer 8

Get a new perspective out of life. Volunteer in hospitals with sick children or elderly. Volunteer to work with animals.You will see you will not be so depressed. As for worrying, you need to have more faith in life. Read books about God, the universe, start going to church. Get involved, meet new people, go out more. You will feel more secure and have a better outlook on life. Get involved, think of others, help out. Choose a cause and get involved. You will not feel so worried and depressed.

Answer 9

You need to see a counselor. You might have Obsessive compulsive disorder. My son has it and his counselor has helped our entire family learn how to deal with it. You might have to see a couple of different people before you find the right person to help you. If that isn't an option go to the library and start reading. There are great books that deal with excessive worrying. You are not alone. There is help.

Answer 10

If you were on meds and feeling better and now you aren't, your meds are not working. You can develop an immunity to the meds and then they won't work. After some time, you need to change them. I would go back to my Dr and if I weren't taking anything, I would tell him the situation and ask for something. If I were taking something I would explain it definitely wasn't working. Life is too short and too full of fun to live it unhappily when you don't have to!

Answer 11

Life is over in the blink of an eye. Do you want to spend it in a constant state of concern over what may happen, or what may not happen?
There is a certain point at which every decision becomes a question of is this good for me or is this bad for me. If you can fix it, fix it, don't worry and waste energy. If you cannot fix it, don't waste energy worrying about it! MOVE ON!

Live your life, friend....do not let it slip by you.