If you was unhappy with something your partner said or did, would you tell them straight away or...?

Question

act differently until they asked you what was up? I know some people don't like to be the one to bring things up,so they act strange instead! i'm not talking about anybody,I'm just interested in different peoples views :)

Answer 1

mention it immediatly,,,but try to keep your cool !!!!!

Answer 2

in all honesty, it does depend on what it is that your partner has said or done. but from my experience, in general, i would not tell them straight away, sometimes not at all. i find that if you start telling them the smallest thing that maybe has annoyed you, it becomes easier and tempting to comment on everything else. and if you sit back and truelly analyse the situation, there was no need. my partner used to get sick of me nagging at her about some things, which i guess just became habit for me to do. and i realised i had begun to do it. its just not worth it sometimes, let it lie low and keep things nice with your partner.
if the issues is a big one however, my advice would still be to wait a little- will they bring it up? or at least give yourself time to think about how you will handle it sensibly. dont ruch into anything that is going to upset you more by it being in the heat of the moment. good luck anyhow

Answer 3

There should be no issue with telling your partner something made you unhappy - but sometimes we don't have to do it that instant. You can wait till later in the day and say, "I wanted to mention that earlier I felt unhappy because (reason) and I just wanted to discuss it with you." A great relationship is built on good communication but tactical communication is better. Sometimes we need to remember our friends and family make mistakes or inadvertently offend us. Showing the patient and constructive approach is what keeps a good relationship working.

Answer 4

Tell them straight away, this way it clears the air, and it doesn't force long term bad blood on the subject. If people just told others something upset them, then there wouldn't be any backstabbing, or bitching in the world. And I bet there would be less divorces, and breakups.

Answer 5

I've been married for only 2 years, (with him for 8) and found that if I don't speak up right away, nothing gets resolved. I tend to word my issue with "I'm feeling" or "I need" rather than "You made me feel" or "you started". If I explain to him my point of view, instead of accusing him of doing something, he seems to understand, accept, and modify more effectively.

Answer 6

ok..if he said something why we were in company or with any one then i would have to ask after wards when we were alone or back home. where it was quiet so neither would be embarresed about the conversation..but if he did something with another woman in front of me then i would do it there and then because i could not keep my mouth shut..

Answer 7

I used to confront my bf immediately, but I realize that it is better to think it over and see if its worth mentioning. Otherwise you will be using everything as an excuse to complain.

Answer 8

of course. that is the honest thing to do
honesty is one of the most important concepts nessicary to having a healthy relationship.
honesty
openness
love
and trust.

Answer 9

I'd speak my mind. I don't believe in playing, "Guess what's wrong with me" games. I don't have the time or patience for that crap. In return I'd want him to be just as honest with me.

Answer 10

i would tell them. u got to get things straight from the start.

Answer 11

i believe in honesty and truth so i think you should mention it to him in a calm and relaxed manner.
that way maybe the explanation can be calm without conflict
mike