I have a friend who has been diagnosed with brain cancer. She is my age....22. Her being sick has really hit home with me. I want to be there to support her and uplift her but I can't seem to look at her without falling to pieces.
2006-06-25 10:22:16 · 7 answers · asked by lbm_wcc 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Do it anyway... she's counting on you.
That's what being friends is all about... good and bad, thick and thin. You can grieve later... for now be brave for their sake.
2006-06-25 10:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by J.D. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your friend, you know her well...treat her the way you'd want to be treated if it was you instead of her. Get in touch with your local hospice. They will send you literature or send someone out to counsel you on how to best help her if you plan to spend any significant amount of time with her. I have been in your place...there is plenty of time for tears after your loved one has passed. Enjoy her and let her enjoy you as much as possible. She is about to transition, it is not to be sad about, just the life energy turning another page. Love her. Be honest with her. Respect and try to understand her moods during these coming days. Facing death involves going through several stages or levels of acceptance. There is a great book out there, very short and to the point, called "Good Grief" by Granger Westberg, which is very helpful in showing folks how to deal intimately with impending death, their own or that of a loved one. I think you might find it helpful to both of you. Good luck to you.
2006-06-25 11:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by hickcrazy1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is the time that she's gonna need you the most. You need to accept this fact about her, then help her accept this fact. Once she's accepted this fact, you'll notice her quality of life go up, and she'll appreciate even a flower in the grass. She really needs you now, and it's your time to be there. Maybe you two can cry together. But be there for her, don't abandon her now, especially now, in her time of need. Now is the time when she needs her "true friends" to appear. Do as much as you can with her and for her. She won't be here forever. God bless both of you.....
2006-06-25 10:33:08 · answer #3 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard to deal with, I know this from experience I lost a Friend at age 20 to cancer, But the best thing to do for them is to just let them know that your there for them, pray for their health and hope for the best.
2006-06-25 10:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by Evan D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got some excellent advice here. Be cheerful and talk about the good times you've had together. Bring flowers and funny movies to watch together. Try to make it easier for her instead of so hard.
2006-06-25 10:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit and do nice things with her. You never know which day will be her, or your last. Watch movies, play games. Cheer her up, you will get happier that way also. Just remember that she is here now, that is what matters.
2006-06-25 10:28:22 · answer #6 · answered by Amber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fall apart later...she needs you now. Think of what she's seeing when she looks and hears you. She don't want your pity.
2006-06-25 10:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by spider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋