my mom is unhappy. she is thankful for her job but it takes a lot of out her and some people there get on her nerves. she's always uptight and stressed out. now that school is out i spend a lot of time with her. and although school's only been out a week, i am going crazy. i try to make her happy, i take her out etc, but she is happy for 15 minutes and then starts talking about her problems. i understand that talking helps her, but she is making me depressed. i can't help her. and she often takes her anger out on me, i can't stand being around her but i have no choice. what do i do?
2006-06-25 10:19:09 · 10 answers · asked by curious kitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to explain this to your mom. Chances are, she doesn't realize how it affects you. Just calmly tell her how it makes you feel. Honesty is always the best policy. Between the two of you, you can come up with some solutions on how to handle it. Maybe your mom can see a counselor to listen to her problems and help with her unhappiness. Good luck!
2006-06-25 10:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by ilse72 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you are still in school. Mom is Mom. Try do all the little things mom digs. Pick flowers and present them to her when she comes home. Make her ice tea and tell her it is cold and ready. BUT, most of all, realize, it really is not about you. You mom sounds like she is depressed and needs professional help. You will have your own life soon.
I know this is harsh, but sometimes, we moms take it out on the kids 'cuz you are there. It don't mean there is no love, It is just .......who else is really around? Take my word for it........I was going through a very diffucult time. My daughter hated me during high school. Now she is away at college, and we could not be better. We miss each other, and we still drive each other nuts, but we know we love each other.
One more thing, my eldest son once sat me down, and said straight out, " I love you, you are worrying me, and you are driving me nuts!" I actually listened. It took a little time, but I worked on changing my attitude. I bet you your mom loves you enough too, to try and change. Good luck, sweetie!
2006-06-25 17:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by MOI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 18 and graduated....get a job and move out. If you are under 18, you are stuck by law unless you can support yourself then you can be emancipated through the courts which will allow you to leave.
Talk to your mom and let her know what she is doing and how that makes you feel and ask her if you could work on making it better for both of you together.
If really bad depression, have her seek help.
PRAY PRAY PRAY PRAY!!!!!
2006-06-25 17:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depressed people do tend to bring others down. I take it you are too young to work. She needs another adult to sound off with. Suggest she go see a girlfriend or invite one over. Do you feel comfortable telling her she upsets you? If you can talk to her like that then do it. Some people don't realize how much they complain. If you cant, go visit girlfriends. Do you have a grandma or aunt you could go visit? Put your music in your ears.
2006-06-25 17:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she considered professional therapy? A friend of mine is the same way, and talking to a therapist has really helped her out. She used to worry about everything, and talking to a professional made her realize that some of the things she worries about are out of her control. It'll be hard for her to take the first step and admit that she needs help, but trust me, she won't regret it.
2006-06-25 17:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by BAMF. ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something you enjoy doing alone. And when she asks why you've made yourself scarce, let her know why you've not been around. You've got to be supportive of her situation without letting it bring you down. So enjoy a few books, find an outside hobby and maybe encourage her to get out and find things that make her happy!
2006-06-25 17:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous 20-Something 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to keep yourself busy with positive things to help you in your future life. Get out and join groups and be with positive people. When you and your mother see each other you will have positive things to talk to her about and it might rub off on her. At least you will have a positive influence in your life. You can not change her she has to want to change.
2006-06-25 19:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by DEANNA M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's not much you can do for your mother its job related as long as she continues working there she will be miserable. have you tried talking to her about looking for a different job? this is the only solution i came up with why work at a place if its only going to give you nothing but pain & misery? your mother must like it or else she would have looked for other work.
2006-06-25 17:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by lil_bit_nv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom how u feel and that your just a child or teeager and u cant help her she needs someone else to speak her thoughts 2 and let her know its not fare that u have to take the lash for something someone else has done to her and let her know ul ove her but its just 2 much 4 u
2006-06-25 17:28:08 · answer #9 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks, but you have to deal with it. Be honest with her and if she isn't responsive. Spend all your time with friends and come home to sleep. She will get the hint.
2006-06-25 17:24:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋