I have been dating this new guy since I broke up with my b/f of 6 yrs. I am very happy with the new guy, but I saw my ex last night with another girl and it's killing me, I know I don't want to be back with him so why does it hurt so bad?
2006-06-25 10:12:53 · 18 answers · asked by barefootmodel 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It hurts so much to see him with another girl because you loved him. You thought that you guys were so perfect together and would never be apart. And when you did break up, you didn't think you would ever have to see him with another girl. You tied a knot with this guy, and since you loved him you will always love him. 6 years is a long time girl. You will probably always love that guy. You just have to make yourself realize that you are happy with this other guy. There was obviously something he didn't like or you didn't like to make you guys break up. Otherwise, you would still be together. If you are happy with the guy you are with now then try not to think about your ex. Think about how happy you are now. I know this is hard I went through the same thing. Be Strong Girl.
2006-06-25 10:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by jennacharnele_johnson2009 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you answered to a question my roommates little brother posted under my name,"How do I become "the" porn celebrity?" Anyways, not my personal favorite (porn) but he's just a kid! To answer your question, it hurts because it is supposed to. If it didn't, that would pose a problem. YOU feel hurt because you are real, because what you felt then and now are how you know that anything is real. If you truly know you don't want to be with your ex anymore, then what you feel is either just a confused memory of sorts, or just the unfamiliar sight of him with someone else. Is it actually hurt? Are you feeling like the rest of the world doesn't exist, even all the most important things at times? Can you not find a way to concentrate or stay focused on even the simplest of your daily routines? Do you not find pleasure in even some of your favorite activities? Does it seem that everywhere, eyes open or shut, his image is always there? If you really are through with him, and you did LOVE him, then breathe deep, and stay with the thought that you would still want him, and whoever else just at least to be happy....Try not to judge how you think you feel about the new guy, just try to find peace in the fact that you made the right decision, hard as it may seem, if it isn't meant to be, it won't be, and both of you will be better off in the the end....You were right, it is all about respect, which without self respect, it is impossible to give respect, or LOVE, to anyone else....BESIDES, IF IT HURTS THAT BAD, THEN YOU KNOW WHY, LOVE HURTS. LOVE IS THE BEST, AND SOMETIMES THE HARDEST THING YOU WILL EVER HAVE TO DEAL WITH. BUT YOU ARE REALLY THE ONLY ONE WHO KNOWS!!!!!
2006-06-27 09:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by mark jones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would've liked to know is how long after you broke up did you start dating this new guy... the obvious answer is that you didnt wait long enough, and that you're not over your ex yet. Even if you dont want to be back with him, 6yrs isnt a short space of time, and you get very attached to someone (trust me I know- I was with my last ex for almost 6 yrs too, and if she got together with another guy I'd be hurt and PISSED, but I'd know I it was no longer my place to say)
If possible, try to avoid seeing him, and deal with your feelings privately... try not to hurt this new guy you're with, he doesnt deserve to be punished with your issues from before. But just take some time and let yourself heal
2006-06-25 17:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by aoshi_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you've been with someone for that long, and particularly if you've slept together, you leave a bit of yourself behind when you break up, and he leaves a bit of himself behind. This is why breakups are not supposed to happen after the relationship has been consummated.(1)
It is not humanly possible to change this, but with God all things are possible.(2) It is possible to clean off the slate so you can learn from your experiences(3) and take *something* positive from them, no matter what they are(4), and then get on with your life. What you do is turn to Him, trust in Him and what He has done for you, calling upon Him.(5) Then your life can become an example of His goodness.(6)
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. (Psalm 34:18)
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds... (Psalm 147:3)
May God bless you and keep you
2006-06-25 17:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were dating him for 6 years! Of course it's going to hurt. Getting over someone doesn't happen overnight.
You have to take time to heal the pain in your heart. Go out with you female friends. Go shopping, Start a diary or blog and please please DO NOT FREQUENT THE SAME PLACES THAT YOU AND YOUR EX USED TO GO. You'll relive the memories and it's going to hurt even MORE
It's time to start a new life. Soon you will find another cuter guy and your EX with be a thing of the past...
2006-06-25 17:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To a point I think you'll always hurt a little when u see or hear about him with someone new, because most likely part of you will always love him. Even if you know that you'll never be together again, part of you will always care. Good luck in your new relationship!!!!!! Think about all the postives you've got now that you wouldn't have if u were still with ur ex.
2006-06-25 17:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. In a relationship of 6 yrs, there were obviously a lot of fun times together, and we tend to remember the good times and forget about the bad things that caused us to go our seperate ways. You can't erase the past, but you can focus on the reasons why he's your ex, and learn, and move forward.
Good luck.
2006-06-25 17:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by wild1handy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it hurt so bad because you been with him so long and you might have been in love. i think if i see my ex it would hurt me to because think of all the stuff you'll been through together and he really know the real you. and what girl can ever picture one of her ex b/f she been with for a long time with another girl.
2006-06-25 17:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by THAT DEAL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through this and it hurts so bad because even though you don't want him back, you still love him. And to see him with someone else is hard. It's like you've been replaced.
2006-06-25 17:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you had 6 years with him and you still have some feelings for him.
2006-06-25 17:15:58 · answer #10 · answered by James B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋