Recently my boyfriend of 4 years went away for 2 weeks. And when he came back he told me that some girl came on to him, a girl who knows me and wanted to have sex with him... well that didn't bug me because as much as this. This girl that I don't know at all gave him a back massage and hugged him and now there are rumors going around that he slept with her. He has cheated on me before and then lied to me about it on another one of these trips. I came out and asked him if it was true and he said no, that he loves me with all his heart, Should I believe him?
2006-06-25 10:06:49 · 26 answers · asked by Ashlee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he did cheat on me but it was in the first 6 months.. over 3 years ago, thats why I don't know what to think...
2006-06-25 10:12:12 · update #1
well its up to you, you can always turn a blind eye, but the problem is not going away. you will always will have trust issues with your boy friend. I know its hard when you have been with someone for four years but maybe get rid of the looser and find someone who can give you the respect and trust that you deserve. kick his a$$ to the gutter so he can have all the affairs he want, and just move on. Believe me, there are plenty of fish out in the sea that can treat you so much better. good luck and I wish you well. ; )
2006-06-25 10:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by manlymanleather 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some people are not old enough yet to commit to a serious relationship. He may truly love you with all his heart but it is clear he has and will cheat on you again. Cheating does not mean that he doesn't love you but it does mean he does not respect you an that is a problem. If you had not agreed to have an open relationship from the start then this also is a problem with trust. If you are a one man women, then by all means kick him to the curb as their are tons of guys who will commit and you will be better off.
2006-06-25 17:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by gynsu666 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Through my experience.... Once a cheater, always a cheater.... He probably does love you but he want's his cake and eat "her" too !! Sorry, the truth hurts, alot, but you will get over it, if you get read of him.....There is always some truth in rumors... do you really expect him to tell you the truth when he doesn't want to lose his "good" thing?!!! And they don't have to go away for 2 weeks to cheat, It happens at home more then you think !!! Move on sweetie, and find someone to appreciate you and love you the right way..... Good Luck...
2006-06-25 17:32:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy, I can tell you that more than likely he cheated. Also, the fact that he cheated on you only in the "first 6 months" of your now 4-year relationship should do little to comfort you. I can tell you that when a guy is really in love with a woman he will not cheat on her unless 1. another woman is extremely beautiful; and 2. she threw herself on him and made it effortless. Even then, most guys will pause if they are truly in love.
2006-06-25 17:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by brian_hahn_32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's really true that he didn't, tell him to look you in the eye and say he didn't. If he has any trouble doing that, than it's probably true and you should leave. Never let a guy cheat on you twice. Forgiving him once is ok, but if you do it twice then he'll know he can walk all over you and you'll get hurt.
2006-06-25 17:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to this question.
If you loved you so much then he would have never cheated on you in the first place. Once a cheater always a cheater. You should have left the first time. You pay for bad decisons.
2006-06-25 17:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by bridetobebrandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like you trust him, I don't blame you. He's done it before, and you stayed with him. Likely he's going to do it again. If he let things get far enough for that other girl to give him a massage, then I'd bet he didn't say no when she came on to him. You should find someone else to date.
2006-06-25 17:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by Landslide 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out!!!! Its not worth being in a relationship where you don't trust the other person and are always questioning if they are faithful or not. Move on, there are better guys out there that won't cheat!
2006-06-25 17:11:39 · answer #8 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he's got to go. You don't need this kind of man who cheats on you. There are many good men out there looking for a good woman. You are a good woman and you deserve a good man.
Good Luck Good Woman
Adios, chao
2006-06-25 17:17:49 · answer #9 · answered by MARK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, somebody who has lied to you for the same reason is difficult to find out what is really happening... I would personally think that he must have cheated but wouldn't show this to him! Simultaneously I would try to fnd out the truth...
2006-06-25 17:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by maria d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋