I am not LDS. I have accepted his choices and yet he refuses to accept mine. Is this the teachings of your church? I have a mental illness. You would think he would be taught to take care of me - not ostracize me. Am I wrong???
2006-06-25 09:46:56 · 9 answers · asked by Patti 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My son is 31.
2006-06-25 10:27:05 · update #1
Ah, I see. Throw someone who loves you away instead of trying to help them deal with their problem. I am not that type of Christian. I am also not an ex-boyfriend. I gave this man his life! The "toxic" term was used after I cried because I hadn't seen him in over four years. I'm sorry. I don't think I was asking too much. It's been two more years since then.
2006-06-25 11:48:50 · update #2
LDS is a cult pure and simple. It was setup by a man of questionable sanity and will never fail the "what is a cult" test.
Your son is trying to find his best way and srumbled unto this error.
Time and patience on your part will go along way
2006-06-25 09:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by ML 5 · 5⤊ 12⤋
I'm so sorry you feel this way. My mother has a mental illness and I love her so much. Sometimes it's very difficult because I want her to snap out of it. Often I cannot be around her for long periods of time because I don't have the answers for her and she thinks I should because I serve The Lord. It's the most difficult position to be in as a daughter. I don't know what the future holds but I will always keep you and my mom and others like you in my prayers. God Bless You
2006-06-25 16:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Nita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The church teaches that children should love and respect their parents; your son's behaviour would not be condoned by his priesthood leaders. Go to www.lds.org and look up in the gospel library - Ensign - under mental illness. You will see that there have been several articles about how we should help and support loved ones who suffer in this way.
We do not cut family off however much they reject the chuch. None of my family will ever join, but we are still very close. I'm guessing your son is fairly young - perhaps late teens. I suspect his behaviour is more to do with his age and personal confusion over your illness than connected to his faith.
2006-06-25 17:19:30 · answer #3 · answered by sunnyannie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's telling you you are toxic then most likely you are constantly criticisizing or otherwise making his life miserable any time he is near you. A person can only put up with that for so long. Then they must take self-preservation into account and take care of themselves first.
You can't take care of anyone else if your too messed up to take care of yourself. It sounds like he feels that he needs to be away from you in order to make his life less complicated. Are you judgmental and criticizing? Is your life one constant drama after another?
I had to get away from my ex-boyfriend, who also had mental illness for the same reason. For several years I thought that I could "cure" him or help him. I finally realized that he was not my responsibility and that my only responsibility was to take care of myself first.
No one has to sacrifice themselves for another only to continue being abused. It sounds like your son has found himself a backbone and is taking a stand for his own sanity. Good for him.
2006-06-25 18:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has turned his back on you it's his choice right, wrong or indifferent. I feel for you, for a child to do such a thing. Dispite how you are or how you live your life he should continue to love you. This is coming from a LDS man.
2006-06-25 17:27:31 · answer #5 · answered by princezelph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is behaving contrary to his faith. However, many Mormons are really nice and invite you to functions and dinners and all that fun stuff...but when they find out you are completely set in your ways (faith or otherwise) they have been known to cut you off.
They are in the converting, raising money business. Show him love and understanding and he will come around.
2006-06-25 16:53:28 · answer #6 · answered by frontmann2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is a family issue that needs to be solved with the family not the world. And maybe there might be more to the situation.
2006-06-25 16:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LDS IS a cult.
the top echelons know that to be true.
the "sheep" are mostly un-aware.
2006-06-25 16:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.biblebelievers.com/SimpleSalvation.html
2006-06-25 16:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋