As the mother of a disabled child, I have serious fears that she will never get married, be happy and have children. Her personality is so profound that everywhere we go, everyone seems to know her. She is a bright and shining star when it comes to personality. She is also very pretty. Are there men out there that will treat her right? How am I going to tell her that boys are not going to want to date her, bring her to the prom, etc. It kills me everyday. Are there men who don't look upon a person who walks "funny" and still love her with all their heart? Please don't joke around, this really weighs on my heart.
2006-06-25 09:29:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry for your heart break. I became disabled a year ago. I walk funny but I still get dates.
2006-06-25 09:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by tiltintam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I been there and done that and yes there are many men and women for that matter who do not look at such things when dating.
On the flip side there are some that will never date someone like this but such is life.
We all have to deal with jerks in life, just last night I had to deal with one who spoke very rudely to me because I offered advice to a question she had and because of my age, she acted like I was a pervert. so yeah in one way or another we all have a disability to someone.
I will say your daughter if she has a good outlook on life and has a good personality then she should do great. and keep in mind no one is perfect and usually the ones that point out others short-comings are usually the most disabled.
2006-06-25 09:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible. There are some really shallow girls out there and some who really aren't. You may have more of a chance with someone who understands what you are going through but it's not like it'll never happen with a non-disabled girl. My friend Darcy dates non-disabled girls. He's never dated a disabled girl. (Not because he doesn't want too.He's just never met any he's gotten along with) He's just that great of a guy. I'm sure you'll find someone regardless.
2016-03-27 04:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I became disabled shortly after I got married. I was afraid that my marriage would not survive that. I am fortunate to know just how lucky that I am. My husband not only treated me right he made me feel truly blessed. If she gets discouraged in her youth I would tell her that the boys just need some time to mature and realize that the most important thing about being married is liking the person that you are married to. As for the guys...it is very possible that she may meet a guy who can relate to what she's going through. People can surprise you.
2006-06-25 09:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by Christy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the course of human history, many disabled people have gotten married, many disabled people have been happy, and many disabled people have had children.
Of course there are some boys and men who will be small enough NOT to date her because of her disability. But to the truest boys and men, it is her personality that will make her attractive or unattractive.
You've already indicated that she has a pleasing personality. So don't be overly worried. Still not every boy/man will be interested - but don't worry because every boy/man is not right for her. She is actually BLESSED because her disability is a built in filter that will filter out the worst of them. Be thankful for this filter.
When the right boy or man sees her - He will see HER, and not her disability.
2006-06-25 09:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she has confidence in herself she will find love, if she is a "victim" of her own situation then that is all people will see.
You said that she has a shinning personality then this will win hearts, just explain to her that the good men have to be weighted for, that way you can ensure she doesn't feel to disheartened when she starts dating, as heart break happens to us all!
Soon you will be worrying about her being ten minutes late from a date, meeting boyfriends and giving her talks on contraception, so don't worry!
I mean i walk funny, my knees turn inwards when i walk and my knees swell etc, i have allot of problems, some mental, others physical and i found love.
There are men that will treat her right, i know this for myself, this is because your daughter will only attract loving people, because she is such a star.
X don't worry X
If you still worry PM me via yahoo answers, just to talk.
2006-06-25 10:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by JennyPenny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very complicated issue, and im not too confident about my answer so please forgive me if im not a help. If you ask a bunch of guys would they date a disabled girl, most of them would say yes and say inside is what matters, but in reality they wont which does not make them bad but its not something an average person would want. its the harsh truth, that does not mean that your daughter will not find anyone. A guy who more likely will like her will be her friend which she will make over the years or someone who knows her, understands her and sees her inside. I suggest you direct your daughter towards being a strong independent women, someone who doesnt over shadow her dreams with a disablity. She will attract guys who will see the real her.
2006-06-25 09:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by mystri_guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not say how old your daughter is or what her disability is, apart from "walking funny", but I cannot see why she should not have a "normal" love life. Please do not try to "prepare" her for anything. She is not stupid, and of course, the right man (boy) will pitch up at the right moment.
Just be there for her should she have disappointments, as any young person has, not only those with disabilities.
I strongly recommend that you join a support group in your area, as it seems to me that you have a bigger problem than your daughter. And I mean it in all honesty.
I will pray for the both of you.
2006-06-25 09:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello girlstylefas! first of all i understand how you must feel,but at the same time i can not help but to think that maybe it is you that feels this way.listen if your child shines like a shining star whether she is diabled or not she will always have a chance at being loved by any and everyone,and eventhough she may have a disability does not mean that she doesn,t have feelings. you have to believe that your daughter is entitled to be happy just like anyone else so please just give her unconditional love and always support her decision no matter how crazy you think it is.God would have not created and angel just to send on the earth for no one to love her,but he also put her on this earth for her to show us all that despite her disability that she has an even bigger heart to love us all...
2006-06-25 09:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by 0samaria s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hay mom goodquestion yes there are men out here that would be glad to date or even marry her.
the way i see it love comes from the heart looks is not every thing
yes in some case looks count. im a little slow my self but i dont put my self down.
treat you daugther like a queen yes
hello my name is jay im 37 m looking for that special person.
They say special comes in many forms. God put her here on this earth. then God has a plan and hope fully a heart for her also.
all of us men arent bad.
2006-06-25 09:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there are nice guys who will date disabled women. You are correct that some men will not... but those are not men you'd want to date your daughter, anyway, as they are shallow. She should continue to make friends and have a positive attitude, about men, life and herself. She should continue to try new life experiences and grow as a person. This inner peace will attract the right man in time. I wouldn't worry her about men who aren't looking for her inner beauty. One day, Mr. Right will see what she offers. I'm very confident, if she is a nice girl, she'll attract the right guy -- and he won't care that she is disabled.
2006-06-25 09:36:58 · answer #11 · answered by Regularguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋