is it wrong to invite ur ex boyfriend or husband to your wedding. Even if u guys are still friends.?

Question

by the way one of close friend is getting married and wanted to know if its a good idea. Not me, i told her i dont think there is anything wrong with it, she wanted more opinions

Answer 1

NO, but...discus it with your "now" guy first. "IF" he rather you not then don't. It's about "respect", and if you respect your guy then do what he asks of you. BUT remember he may say yes, he doesn't care, but if you know him well enough you should know that he's saying " please don't".

Answer 2

How does your fiance and the rest of your family feel about him? I have an ex boyfriend that I might consider inviting if it weren't for the fact that some of my family has mentioned they would like to use him for target practice. Therefore, he's not invited. My fiance doesn't really care either way and doesn't have a problem with him. You'll have enough stuff to deal with on that day that if you think there will be a problem with him being there, I would avoid the hassle.

Answer 3

If you're friends...great. However, why? You're still holding on in some way to a past relationship, and the day that you chose to commit your life and love to someone else should not include a person who had this kind of past with you.

While it's a nice gesture, it seldom is the most comfortable thing. I know of two brides that invited their exes, and both men graciously and politely DECLINED, which was the right thing for them to do. So, take a cue from these men who had good sense not to include themselves in their ex's wedding.

Answer 4

It's not wrong to invite your ex lovers to your wedding but it's also not a good idea because it might cause some problems. For example, your ex lover and/or your fiance might get jealous or get mad at you and/or each other and it might turn into arguments and then into physical attacks, before,during,after the wedding. Also, you have to think when the priest or minister or judge says "Who in here doesn't agree for this couple to be married? Speak now or forever hold their peace." And what if your ex lover says "I do!" then what?

Answer 5

It depends on what kind of relationship you now have with an ex. Most people may not want an ex attending their wedding, some would..personally, I would not, an ex is an ex for a reason.

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong as long as you, your fiance and the ex are ok with the situation. If there is tension between the group, I would leave him off the guest list to avoid issues at the wedding.

Answer 7

I have a question about this.. why would you want an ex husband or boyfriend to share in your big day? How would you feel if his ex wife or girlfriend showed up? You're setting yourself up here if you invite them.

Answer 8

Yes I think that it is wrong. You may just be friends but don't make you future husband feel uncomfortable. It is his day too. Your husbands opinon matters more than the ex's does.

Answer 9

maybe if you guys are really good friends after the break-up then go. but if not, don't think about it. ican't invite my ex-boyfriend in my wedding this coming august ebcause he might know that my fiance and i emt on webdatedotcom. i used to tell him i don't participate in online dating sites and look at us now...

Answer 10

Well, my exfiance was an usher in my wedding. (I was determined to have him in a tux at my wedding, even if he wasn't standing next to me.)

I had another exboyfriend who wanted to be at the wedding, but my husband and I decided that I wasn't going to have a parade of exboyfriends at the wedding, so I never sent him an invitation.

I guess it depends on you, how your fiance feels about it, and I dunno. It's up to you who you invite.

Answer 11

Its ok if your fiance will be ok with it... I know mine would not be therefore, I won't be inviting mine, sad, but I didn't go to his.... these things can be understood.... ask yourself if your fiance would deep down be ok about it and feel respected in the end for that decision.