ive been going out with my bf for 7 months now, we lost our virginity together on saturday morning when he stayed at my house on friday night. we have both decided on me going on the pill and are truely in love with each other.
but yesterday he was suppose to stay at my house again after the meal but he told me yesterday that he wanted to go home cos it saves him "messing about". i wasnt impressed.
i dont understand why he dint want to stay over again cos we both enjoyed sex and he says he wants to see me all the time, and that isnt always possible cos he lives quite far and we hardly have the opportunity to stay over at each others houses :|
2006-06-25 08:33:52 · 16 answers · asked by katie_orlandoarogorn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he's just scared that he did something wrong. If it was really his first time too, it's understandable to be "unsure" and nervous. You can't be all hung-ho and be doing it all the time when both of you are new to it. Just give it time. Maybe he's not sure how you feel about the whole thing? Just talk it out and make sure you both know how the other person feels about it - and how comfortable you both are about doing it frequently.
2006-06-25 08:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by ♥iamsleepy♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, considering you two were both virgins... Some people take losing it differently. In general, when two people first have sex with eachother, things can get awkward for a little while.
You shouldn't be mad or upset with him, but understand that maybe he was just being normal and was nervous.
2006-06-25 15:39:41 · answer #2 · answered by Velocity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry too much.
Men are like that, either he could be feeling guilty, or he just have to prove something to himself.
I would not like to believe that he got what he wanted and don't know how to tell you. Or maybe you came on too strong the last dinner you had. Whatever it is, don't be too worried now.
He will be back for more of you. Just don't be too willing, that turns off many men. Surprised?
2006-06-25 15:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by awaxa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs some time to himself to process the emotional change that's happened in your relationship. It isn't about you; he just has to have some alone time. Kiss him goodbye with a smile and tell him you'll see him whenever, then go run your life for a bit while he deals. He'll be back.
Best wishes and God bless.
2006-06-25 15:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by bobhayes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's just not sure how to act now that you've both lost your virginity. or maybe he has some regrets now about having sex. just give him a little space and see what happens.
2006-06-25 15:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Applebottom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? You are headed for big trouble at an early age. Your parents need to keep you away from boys.
2006-06-25 15:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don t worry about it..you are paranoid! it just happens that people just don t feel like it! Doesn t mean that anything is wrong. If it starts to happen more often you can ask him what s going on.
2006-06-25 15:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well mabey he's just scared. He might be confused on if he REALLY wants to do it again! I know he said he did,but he might actually be wondering if he wants the risk or not.
2006-06-25 15:40:13 · answer #8 · answered by *~Rock&Roll~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so alarmed or worried. Only time tells everything sweetie. I'm with the first answer.
2006-06-25 15:37:58 · answer #9 · answered by Cathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesnt kno how to act now since you had sex..Guys are hard to understand.He might not be into you. Try to talk to him
2006-06-25 15:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by Megan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋