I'll do it by initials so you don't get confused. DDJ= Fiance' who cheated on me 3 times and I hate him but I can't bring myself to leave him even though we've barely talked in the past 5 months. He's still holding on. AJ= New boyfriend who I like & enjoy but he's not doing the IT for me as far as emotions. LY: Likes me a lot.. cool to talk to..doesn't know about boyfriends, may be pursuing more then just friends. TW= friends with strong feelings for each other, moved thousands of miles away, can't stop thinking about him, recently had an affair with each other. DR= Inlove with me and I thinks he's a cool cat but I'm not sure I want to pursue anything with him & he keeps pressuring me. JN: Friends for about 2 years and I can see myself spending the rest of my life with him but he lives in another part of Illinois and has no idea how I feel about him. AL: Dissed me, can't get over it, should I see him? What do I do now?
2006-06-25 08:28:39 · 14 answers · asked by Cathy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Note: I haven't had sex with any of these guys except my fiance and the guy I had an affair with and that was seven months apart from each other.
2006-06-25 08:29:31 · update #1
I'm glad your not having sex with all these guys. We dont need any more people lining up to be on Maury to find out who's the baby's daddy with 10 guys.
2006-06-25 08:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by Fee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contrive a reason to be near JN for a weekend spend time together and see if he responds when you tell him how you feel.
If he's a non-runner go for TW,
Show DDJ and AL the red card at once. Get them out of your life. Who needs the grief?
Good luck
2006-06-25 15:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by Kate Hardy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First admit you have a problem.
Then admit that nobody will treat you the way you think you should be treated. They will treat you exactly the way you allow them to, no more, and sometimes less. It is no surprise that the two guys you dig the most just happen to live so far away from you. What does that tell you?
I hope this answer just changed a life. Peace.
2006-06-25 15:34:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, cheating is not the answer. Before u pursue another man, leave ur fiance, unless u really love him. U have to decide what u.You should not live like that because it will catch up to you.
2006-06-25 15:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by Kristy J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW Girl you need to slow down..OK..The DDJ guy you need to just forget about him because he cheated on you 3 TIMES!!!The AJ guy well if you dont feel a connection with him then forget him too.LY you seem to be ok with.TW yes maybe him.DR he likes you but you seem to be just friends with him. JN you neeed to tell him how you feel. AL forget him... Umm i dont kno if i helped but hopefully
2006-06-25 15:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by Megan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like to me it should b (JN ).u just have to get over the fact that he's in another part of illinois. go with your heart if u see yourself with him. why not confess your true feelings. and just tell the man how you feel. if you dont it may be 2 late
2006-06-25 15:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by trebor h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gee um i would say you tell them all how you feel and then you'll see who will come out for you and girl your fiance leave him alone, if he already cheated on you 3 times and you take him back, he'll do it again.... i would say JN would be the one if he feels the same about you he will move and make a sacrifice for you or you will do the same for him....
2006-06-25 15:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop all 7 from mind and matter and start all over again. It's never too late to begin again until you are dead.
2006-06-25 15:34:50 · answer #8 · answered by Irish 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you are the one who should be figuring this out! Its your life so figure out what you want out of it!! It sounds like to me each of those guys gives you one thing that you like each, so i say get rid of all of them and i find one guy that pleases you in all of those areas!
2006-06-25 15:33:38 · answer #9 · answered by *~Rock&Roll~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should start getting money from these guys cause you sound like a whore so get paid girl
2006-06-25 15:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋