I have a girlfriend who I really love. She loves me back but last month we've been pretty intense, seeing each other every day or every other day. We might've gotten fed up of each other. However she does cannabis, something I'm not really happy about, and even though I respect her for making the choice, and she respects me by never doing it in front of me or around me, she can pick up that I have internal problems with it. In other words, I'm not as communicative and she can sense that. The dam broke when she told me she wants to try shrooms. I said okay, and told her my views on it. She wants to acheive a spiritual or mental state and I told her that's not the way to go. But I respect her for it. In a few days it deteriorated and now she asked me for a break. She "hopes I can understand she can't talk to me for a while". And I do. But at the same time, she says I'm her inspiration for becoming a better woman and that she loves me.
Give her her space and wait for the call? or...?
2006-06-25 08:22:13 · 7 answers · asked by palindromagico 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, thank you for all the feedback. It really does help. Especially the bit about respecting myself enough to let her go. Great feedback guys, thanks so much!
2006-06-25 08:38:38 · update #1
Yeah, she's a lil bit too much of a free spirit. I mean I understand her respect for you by not doing those things in front of you. But still you have to think about what it's doing to her. And maybe she might need the space from someone she loves to realize that she's doing is affecting the people she loves.
2006-06-25 08:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by let_it_be_known1981 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, if you really love, you'll never get fed-up with her and it is the same in her case also. if you get fed-up then you are not in Love for sure. first sit down in a pleasant place and think, think and think ----- come to a conclusion, whether you love her or not. if you don't love her, you'll never have a problem in your life but if you love her, then wait for her call. if she calls you back, its good and if she doesn't call don't ever think of some one who doesn't love you. i know that giving advices is simpler than following but, this is not an advice dear. this is my situation just an year back and i did not get the call from her. now also i love her but i am not in need of her. i can live with out her.
i let her free and now, i am free.
think well and then take decision.
2006-06-25 15:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by Sudheendra Rayabhagi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space? Yup, lots and lots and lots of it, as in a few ZIP codes over. You are enabling her drug use.With any luck, she will find someone who puts his foot down and insists she doesn't destroy herself rather than let her do it. If she comes back to you, it will likely be because you DID allow her to do these things, in which case you will have a junkie who thinks she can push you around.
My advice? RUN, don't walk, from this one, and think about standing up for your principles more in relationships.
2006-06-25 15:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by amusedone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let he go. she obviously has her priorities mixe d up, albeit her judgement is clouded, let her find her way back. one cannot justify using drugs with spiritual neediness. I have never seen anything good come form drug use. you are young i am sure and tho this hurts, believe me when i say you deserve somone who can put you ahead in her world, instead of drugs. good luck.
2006-06-25 15:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by a1231234abc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, you need to find someone better - who will appreciate you, who respects you and has respect for herself. Women like her are no good. That's as honest as I can get.
2006-06-25 15:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by ♥iamsleepy♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey it sounds like the drugs are more important to her than you are ...you might consider using your time apart to check out some girls that are not into the drug scene....it would be healthier for you ....and if she goes to needle drugs ...please don't lie to your self and say you respect her for her decisions ...respect yourself enough to say good-bye
2006-06-25 15:30:17 · answer #6 · answered by truegeminismile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no 1 has got time to read such a long question dear
2006-06-25 15:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋