well she had sex with some one 2 weeks b4 we got together so i just asked to make sure if it would be our baby and she got so mad and now she wont talk to me or want to see me until she is no longer mad what can i say to help make her feel better and not so mad at me any more
2006-06-25 07:27:50 · 14 answers · asked by James C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but they thing is she also plays the u cant trust me card well i do but u cant be to sure cuz she is on her way back for N.C. and she had one of her guy friends thats n the military sleep at her motel room with her n sais they took pics to piss me off now u tell me who has the right to ? or to be mad u tell me that one
2006-06-25 07:40:25 · update #1
go to MAURY POVICH and get a DNA TEST, to be for sure
2006-06-25 07:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, a couple of things are going on here that need to be addressed in an intelligent way: If you are sure she had sex with someone else within the last five months, it very well may be someone else's baby, in which case you are perfectly entitled to politely inquire whether she knows for certain you are the father of the child. Then you have to decide how much you love this girl, and if there is a possibility it is not your child, would you want her to have the child and would you want to stay with her. It's a very delicate matter and it can be confusing to her if she is not sure who the father is. If she was insulted when you asked the question, possibly she is 100% sure it is your child. I would suggest that you propose at some point in the future, that you would like to be supportive, but to solve the trust issue you would like to go to her doctor with her and have him explain to both of you, how old is the fetus and when did she conceive the child. Then you will be clearer about whether it is yours. In the meantime, you should be as loving and caring as you can towards her, taking into consideration that you have a perfect right to ascertain whether or not the baby is yours. In other words "I understand that you are insulted and I guess you are insulted because you are 100% sure it is my baby, or you think whether it is or isn't, we should be together. I really love you , and I want to be with you forever, and as a man I must know for sure if it's my baby: Are you sure it's mine? How do you know? I love you so much, I'd like to go to your gynocologist with you and have the doctor explain what the next steps should be." Good luck.
2006-06-25 14:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by E L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, did you use a condom when you had sex? If not, then there is a chance the baby is yours. You know for sure she had sex with another partner before your encounter? If yes, then there is a strong possibility the child could belong to someone else. Without genetic testing, determining the father is not possible. Really you should be asking yourself why did you get in this pre"dick" ament...Do you realize that you've just had sex with everyone she ever had sex with? Advice...go to a doctor or health clinic and be tested for sexually transmitted diseases. Unless you are planning on raising and supporting the child...forget about her.
2006-06-25 14:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by Chainsawmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would ask the same question too if she had slept with another person 2 weeks before hooking up with you. I think it is a legitimate question to ask especially if you don't feel certain that it is your child. I mean who wants to be with someone for 9 months bonding with a child that may not be theirs. All you guys will be is another sad story for the Maury Provich Story.
2006-06-25 14:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold your ground and do not change. If she slept with another man, you have the right for DNA test. She maybe playing the sorry ***, so you do not ask again. If she is inocent, she has nothing to worry. That also will prove to you that she loves you or at least care about your feeling.
2006-06-25 14:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dude...u made the mistake of askin if it was yours or not. That was a bad move on your part. Now she wont talk to u. U need to apologize to her and sincerely mean it. That is a start. Then tell her you will do whatever u can to help her with the baby, yours or not.
2006-06-25 14:31:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically You have to leave her a card explaing how stupid you were and that you reacted badly to her news.. it threw you for a loop whatever but put it on paper and send a romantic gift with it. My ex once sent me a pair of movie ticket stubs with a card when I got so mad at him.. the ticket stubs were from our first date. It helped me not stay mad at him.
2006-06-25 14:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by trudie_barraza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a hole you've dug.
Talk to her. Write a letter, phone call, something to get her attention. Then apologize. Explain (calmly) why you asked, but apologize for asking.
2006-06-25 14:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by eriayasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can say, you blew it Bud, sorry, but that is the stupidest question to as a pregnant gf
2006-06-25 14:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by dahorndogd013 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that probably means she has no clue and she is freakin.....just playu it cool she will need someone soon enough she will be calling and begging for u to come back.
2006-06-25 14:31:31 · answer #10 · answered by the PimP ChimP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you had every right to ask, maybe your timing was off.
2006-06-25 14:30:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋