I know this girl that has a 4 year old boy that still wears diapers. She says that he isnt slow or challenged, but he is just lazy and won't do it. We go to a gym together that has a daycare program and they won't change his diaper and she gets mad. But I don't blame them because a 4 year old in diapers is just crazy in my opinion and seems like laziness on her part. What do you think?
2006-06-25 07:24:28 · 19 answers · asked by stacianastacia 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
That boy definately has mommy wrapped around his little finger.
Your friend sounds like my cousin. She always let her kids call the shots and wound up with bratty uncontrollable kids that no one ever wanted to be aorund. So sad... poor kids. And it was all because she was too lazy to teach her kids how to be civilized human beings.
Kids aren't going to want to do more work than they have to so it's mom's job to insist they use the toilet.... she needs to make it easier on him to do the right thing and more difficult to wear diapers.
I say she should make him change his own diapers and see how he likes that. He'll probably choose the toilet option real quickly.
I also don't blame the gym for refusing to change the kid's diaper.... that's just rediculous to expect them to do that. They are telling your freind in a very nice way, that what she is doing to her son is socially unacceptable and should be remedied right away.
Rather than wasting time at the gym as she negelcts her son, she should get her butt in gear and do some actual parenting.
2006-06-27 04:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by mutherwulf 5 · 4⤊ 4⤋
if the 4 year old doesn't have a medical problem then the lazy one isn't the 4 year old its the mother. for the mother to blame it on the child is pathetic.
mommy of 2
2006-06-26 13:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by Heather W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the 4 year old does not have a medical problem which prevents him from controlling his bowel/bladder, then I would agree. Your friend needs to invest the time and energy to potty train him. Otherwise, not only will she have difficulties at the daycare at gym, but he will have difficulties fitting in in kindergarten next year.
2006-06-25 07:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by tj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be laziness, but maybe not. My son will be 4 in July and I just recently got him fully potty trained. We worked with him hard core since he was about 2 and he absolutely would not poop on the toilet, and it was very unnerving because people accused me of being lazy and I was not. Some kids just aren't ready until they're ready, or maybe she made it a traumatic expirience for him, or started training too early.
2006-06-25 12:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by tinker4586 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she doesn't want to be pushy on the child. My son wasn't "fully" potty trained until he was 4. We were tight on money and could only afford diapers for our 2 year old, so I told him he had to wear his big boy undies. He knew if he messed them he would be in trouble, so he didn't. It probably is attention getting on his part, and weariness on her part. She is probably just tired of trying to force the issue on him, and I can relate. But, when push comes to shove, it can be done.
2006-06-25 07:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by The Apple Chick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
4 year olds are a lot smarter than we think! She needs to address this now and not allow him to be lazy. He is learning that its okay to be lazy. If she lets this go on, it could lead to many more problems for her and him as well down the road.
2006-06-26 08:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by Aubrey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it isn't the child who is lazy and misguided... it's the mother.
she needs to step up and start doing her job. diapers will be the least of that poor kid's problems when he reaches school age.
call your local HHS and ask about guidelines for neglect in your community. seriously.
2006-06-25 07:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by tikiboy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I figure that this boy has a sleep disorder and she really
needs to spend time with him in the evening on his potty
training. She needs to teach him to get up at night so he
can learn to go to the bathroom at night. Like prior to bed
at 10:00pm or when she gets up to go to the bathroom
at night get him up to go. It is not laziness, I think it is
just not knowing. Or it could be a medical problem that
a doctor could advise on. She needs support to help her.
A true friend would help and that is so wonderful you are
wanting to help her...good luck.
2006-06-25 07:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by tychi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like she doesnt know he has to be taught-as 4 the gym it pisses me off because it is not the childs fault & bad stuff happens when your in a dirty diaper too long.
2006-06-25 15:21:07 · answer #9 · answered by CoC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that your friend is lazy... not the child unless there is some medical reason then he should not where diapers anymore.
2006-06-25 07:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋