Why aren't most of to-days parents teaching their children any manners ?

Question

Even simple things like table manners and respect for others. I am amazed at how some kids act in resturants and the parent does nothing to correct it. I cant be the only one that feels this way. What ever happened to preparing your child to make it in a real world setting?I thought thats what good parents did as a part of raising a child to responsable adulthood.

Answer 1

I am a youth counselor at a detention center for at risk youth and I see this alot. Now I am only 23 years old so I don't know how much I can influence the crowd here but here it goes. I think with the kids I deal with there are 2 main things that add to the equation. Parents and Pop Culture. With parenting I think people arent willing to put in the time and also agree with the fact that parents are trying to be friends. Also I don't know if there is any connection but I would say with the number of single parents increasing and the age at which people are impregnated. A irresponsible youth can't raise a responsible person. By the time the kids I work with get to be teenagers, the parent usually wants to make up for the teenage years that they themselves lost leaving a kid to fend for himself. As far as pop culture goes I just isn't popular to be nice anymore most music is about being depressed or being a gangster, alot of the movies my youth watch when not in program have to do with the same or with sexual acts. Well that's all on this matter for now any questions feel free to write.
Timmy

Answer 2

It's because of some parents either being lazy and/or thinking/feeling that they have too much to do to bother, or due to the fact that these days, children know they can scream "abuse" & possibly make the parent afraid of DHR (to try & get their way)... I've seen that tried. I've also seen parents give children their way because of the child having a tantrum or whinning... the parent goes ahead & gives in to the child just so they'll shut up... that only teaches the child that they can repeat the same & have their way (repeatedly). I've also known parents who think giving in to whatever the child wants or doesn't want, is showing their love for the child. Most parents these days don't realize that sitting at the table isn't just for the purpose of eating, but is also for the purpose of learning, not just table manners, but learning things about one another, & that it's also about enjoying one another's company (companionship, good relations, good will, harmony, peace). Unfortunately, many children are not being taught to respect others... & in neglecting to teach them, they're taught to be selfish, inconsiderate of others, irresponsible (wild, out of control).

Answer 3

Because Dr. Spock taught us that it would hurt their little ego's and they may turn out to be mentally deranged as a result of this abusive behavior.

Or it could be because Mom has to work and can't be home to teach Junior what he needs to know so he gets shipped off to strangers to be cared for while Mom is at work.

Or the parents just don't give a slam and expect their children's school teachers to do all of the training.

Or the parents don't have any manners to teach their children in the first place.

Do the world a favor....be a good parent.

Answer 4

you have centred your question on "chivalry," yet that's possibly no longer the factor. it rather is merely the wide concept of manners and behaviour. Your sister is on the final music. I practice and additionally learn developmental psychology besides because of the fact the motivational kinds that turn diverse people into successes or lumps. long and short: i've got seen greater examples of stable and undesirable parenting and the outcomes than non-coaching mothers and fathers have seen. This new age stuff of treating infants like small adults with the awareness to confirm what to do in each venture is a load of bull. It does not artwork out nicely. of direction, neither does dictating to them. the final parenting is neither manically strict nor stupidly lax. the mothers and fathers ought to intently shape a new child's existence on an identical time as additionally progressively permitting the new child new freedoms that are age and adulthood point appropriate.

Answer 5

Isn't it somewhat hard to teach a kid manners when they sit at TV tables with McDonalds for every meal? Wouldn't it require the parents to act like a parent and have the family sit at a table together so they can "practice" their manners. When I was growing up, we had dinner every night as a family and had to use good manners and to this day, I still catch myself doing the things that I was taught many years ago when I'm at the table, even if it's just me grabbing a quick bite.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

because department of children and family services is busting down the door every time you wipe your kids nose looking for a bruise, you can't change a diaper without being accused of being a pervert, and the brats are telling the schools outrageous stories because what ever little trouble the kid gets into at school their gonna say it is problems at home to take the focus off of themselves, some day when these manipulative children grow up karma will bite then in the butt, I hope

Answer 8

Your 1st reply to your question just summed it up really didnt it....i agree with you....the level of respect, manners and tolerance shown in society today just defies belief..mind you i remember a time and it wasnt that long ago....when if id dared answer back or been disrespectful to anyone id've had my moms hand wiping my face off.....not anymore...i firmly believe that young people/kids today know exactly how far they can push adults safely.....they know that the worst we can do is ground them...take away personal effects or shout at them and the latter is very nearly being classed as child abuse these days....bring back the cane i say.....

Answer 9

Because when you try to show them how to act in public and they get out of control and you want to discipline them,,,,everyone thinks that you are abusing your kids and your not.,,,,,,you get a visit from social services if you look at them wrong or breathe or yell at them and G-d forbid that you think about patting them on their butts that is it everyone thinks you beat your kids.

So out of fear of today's public; which when they were kids had their butts spanked you are considered a child beater, it is not worth going to jail for, especially when they don't have a clue as to how to raise kids themselves.

I am alive today, I am well behaved in public and had my fair share of spankings. this does not make my parents bad.

By the way I am 41 years young.

The world has gone to far with being politically correct and our children are suffering for it.

Answer 10

I agree with you 100% nowadays kids are so mannerless, and have no respect, i dont have kids but when i have i will teach them manners, there is a sister in law who has a mannerless kid i get fed up with her kid coz of this, but i guess when a parent doenst have respect then the kids will be, like my sister in law has no respect, sleeps around when she is married and so her kid is young but i can see the signs of how much she will be like her mum.