He broke up with me when he found out I was pregnant with his baby. He said that it was because I never talk to him or his family. I think about him all the time. I wonder what he is doing and who he is doing it with. I want him back, and I will do anything to get him back. Recently I found out that he was engaged to this girl and he acts like he loves her. Please help me before they get married.
2006-06-25 06:41:31 · 20 answers · asked by Sarah Beth 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am so sorry that you are not together with your babies daddy. He does not sound like a responsible person. Is he paying child support and does he see his child? If not then you already know there is nothing you can do to win him back. You need to concentrate on your child and making a life for you both without the bio dad.
The best thing you can do now is move forward in a positive way.
Good luck!
G.G.
2006-06-25 06:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey - move on. He broke up with you because you are pregnant, not because you never talk to him or his family - he was making up an excuse. DO make the efforts to get child support out of him. It takes two to tango and he wanted to dance the dance so now it's time for him to walk the walk and take responsibility for his actions.
Trust me, you're better off without him. It's unfortunate for your child that it's father is a @**hole, but you'll make do and everything will be okay.
Honestly, though, don't waste another minute of your time thinking about this guy. He doesn't love you - if he did, you'd have never had to ask this question.
Take care and good luck with the child support - it sounds like you'll need it.
2006-06-25 06:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Melissa♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The terrible truth to this question is, don't try, move on. Seems to me he made up a silly excuse so that he could move on. So, you should do the same. Just because he's the father of the child doesn't always mean they want to be with the other parent, unfortunately.....So my BEST advice would be.....Get out there in the dating game once again, and find someone else better! Obviously if he can make up an excuse like that , he is NOT worth your time and efforts. Let him go, but make sure you get child support, kids aren't cheap to bring up!
2006-06-25 07:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really need to reconsider why you are even asking this question. If a man leaves you when he finds out that you are pregnant, then he really wasn't all that serious about being with yoou in the first place. You also need to think about the fact that if someone will do something once, they will almost always do it again. He left you for some unapparent reason, but if you got him back, then he would most surely do it again. Who knows, he might even do the same thing to his fiance'.
You need to get over it. I had a boyfriend in high schol, who broke up with me because I would not sleep with him, and there was another girl who would. After he slept with her a couple of times, he didn't like her anymore, and broke up with her because he realized what he had lost in me. He begged me to take him back, but I didn't, because as much as I was in love with him, if he would do that once, then how would I know that he would not do it again.
GET OVER HIM!!!!!
2006-06-25 07:16:50 · answer #4 · answered by stontamika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont want him back...it is your hormones talking!! =) He is an a$$ if he left you while you are pregnant.....The more you act like you want him back and go to desperate measure to try and get him back, the less he is going to respond to you and the less chance you have of getting him back...
If you really want him back quit acting like you do and ignore him! As soon as you quit trying...he will come running back (if he really still likes you)...otherwise, if he has really moved on, then you need to do the same.....it will be healthier for you and your baby!! Good Luck! =)
2006-06-25 06:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it seems like he was just looking for an excuse to run away from you being pregnant. So ask yourself if you really want that in your life. If that was me, he would have to give me a better reason than because I never talked to him or his family. That is so lame. Besides you would be better off without all that drama in your life, let her deal with him and his stupid excuses.
2006-06-25 06:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by frazier2728 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I know your pain. I had 2 guys do that to me. Move on and be indepepnent. If I did, I know anyone can. Be strong girl. Get a new man who cares. I found a man 8 years younger than me, we got married, and he raises my 2 kids as his own. You will find "the one"
2006-06-25 06:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by nascar_princess83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is, you can't "get someone back". If he is out doing his own thing, that is really sad, and my heart goes out to you. The sad part for him is, he'll be paying for this child for 18 years. He might want to grow up a little and be there for his child. Good luck to you.
2006-06-25 08:13:23 · answer #8 · answered by Therealmsred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweety why do you want him back? I know that it hurts and all but what kind of man would leave his girlfriend when she is pregnant. You deserve someone to stand by you and be there for you and the baby.
2006-06-25 06:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to file child support against him. It would be in your childs best interest that you do this. This guy sounds like a real "wienner" I wouldnt be worried about getting his love back..I would be worried about getting child support from him when the baby comes.....Let him know you mean business
2006-06-25 06:47:09 · answer #10 · answered by celine8388 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋