it just seems to me that nice men always comes in last on the dateing scene.
2006-06-25 06:25:59 · 21 answers · asked by Kenneth L 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Hi Kenneth,
I know what you mean. I am a nice woman and put try to take advantage all the time...I mean actually I am a converted *****! I decided being a ***** wasn't good...I am now respectful; of all things, being a Wiccan. But so many idiots try to take advantage so I put magickal shields around me ...it bounces off me and goes back on them!
The other thing is that so many women say they want a nice guy but are attracted to the proverbial "bad boys." Its time ladies to take stock of that! The bad boys are going to be bad to you too...eventually, not at first while they're still lusting strong for you...but after a few years of marriage...you go way down on their list! ladies you need to rationalize that and give up that bad boy attraction. When I did, I began to recognize all those wonderful loving nice guys around...previously they were invisible to me. Then I married one great nice sweet guy...not a bad guy...but a really nice one. And we live happily ever after now more than 11 years! Try it you'll like it. I think it is all part of our cultural stuff here.
2006-06-25 06:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by Greanwitch 3 · 9⤊ 4⤋
Sometimes women confuse being nice with being weak. What you have to do to counter this problem is to continue being nice to people but be a little bit more aggressive. You can ask a girl out on a date without finding out first whether she is married or not. If she is involved with someone else you should turn your aggression in another direction. If you ask a girl if she has a boyfriend before you ask her out it sends the signal that if she had a boyfriend that you would be afraid to ask. So just ask now and find out the rest later. Be Bold! As I type this I realize I need to take my own advice. Thanks good question.
2006-06-25 13:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, My first question is how old are you? I agree that younger guys have it harder in the dating scene because girls are still trying to "find themselves" and don't know what they want yet. The good news is, once (most) girls go through 1 or 2 bad boys, they realize what they want and start looking for the good guys, but that happens in their 20s and even 30s, so hang in there. Keep being a great guy, don't change for anyone and your time will come!
Good luck!
2006-06-25 13:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just seems like that. Maybe you need to rethink where you're looking for dates. Also, get active with people who have the same interests. Take some classes at your community college, volunteer, join a club etc. Widen your world and think first of making friends - that special person will come along.
2006-06-25 13:32:36 · answer #4 · answered by cwriter2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes because "nice men" aren't as loud, flamboyant, or as attention demanding as the non-nice men they are sometimes looked over, much like a resume on purple paper in a stack of resumes on standard paper. The purple will more likely catch an eye first, but it doesn't mean there's more qualifications on it or that it will be able to hold anyone ones attention.
2006-06-25 13:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by 1princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is because most nice men need to be a tad bit aggressive not a jerk just a bit more forward. things aren't given out but earned if truly wanted.
2006-06-25 13:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by Kota 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all nice men do some women just like a bad boy sometimes but if you ask me good guys should always come first!!!!!
2006-06-25 13:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because often nice men are not as aggressive as others. If you arent happy with how your dating is going, you need to be bold and have self-confidence...not just be nice. (although that is a great quality!)
2006-06-25 13:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is because nice men aren't really nice, they are weak. You have to be the aggressor and go after what you want or you will never reach your goals.
2006-06-25 13:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by david s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way about girls. Human nature is so weird. The harder I try to please a man, the more he pulls away, but if I just ignore him, he comes to me. Most people just don't appreciate what they have until it is gone, then they come crawling back to it.
2006-06-25 13:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by jkeys00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋