my bf is 3 years older than me. he is 17 and i am 14, but we dont mind about our age but our parents do. y? i really care about him and dont want our parents to disaggre. do you think its wrong?
2006-06-25 06:12:36 · 9 answers · asked by Rachel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i like some of the answers but i need to say this. i know that im only 14 but im a sophmore and im soposed to be a freshman so im a grade ahead. im way mature for my age AND grade. i cant go out w/guys in my grade because they r so imature. and my bf is great to me and he hasnt been ne thing but great to me. unlike my other bf's he hasnt even tried to touch me in an inappropriate manner.
2006-06-25 06:45:55 · update #1
When I was 16, my boyfrind was 20 ...and my parents said the same thing...but I stayed with him...they still disagree, but now im 19 (and living with him)and hes going on 23...its not as bad as parents think. As long as you are with someone you care about and he doesnt hold you back at anything, then i would say you are fine. I have been through the same thing. And am still going through it. Parents will be parents i have come to find out. Just go with your heart feelings and dont let anyone take that away from you-ever....if u neeed to talk you can im me or email..either way. i'd love to pass on some advice...
2006-06-25 06:24:00 · answer #1 · answered by monkeysgirl04 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Age really does matter, to an extent. And I'll tell any younger woman this just so that you'll know. Dating an older guy is usually a bad idea. #1) Guys are stupid anyway. When older guys date younger women, they get more stupid. They act more childish. And in general, they start playing "young games" just because they can. But I do understand so: #2) You can't help who you like. And especially at your age, who you like is a big part of your life. What you're going to have to understand is that at this stage in your life there is a big difference between 17 and 14. In a year he's going to be into adulthood, and you'll be in the middle of your teen years. I'd advise you to keep in touch, because if the feelings are still there after the both of you are grown, then why not pursue it. But for right now you might wanna take a break and allow yourselves the opportunity to grow up and see what life has for you. But then again I'm an outside party and you'll do what you want in this relationship. Whatever you choose, I wish you the best.
2006-06-25 13:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by let_it_be_known1981 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age, you think you know what you want, but you don't. Listen to your parents. You don't have anything in common with this 17 year old despite what you may think. Chances are he's only after one thing: sex, which may or may not be legal in your area depending upon age of consent statutes. You are in high school! Concentrate on things in this order: Good grades, staying out of trouble, having fun, friends, then lastly, dating.
2006-06-25 13:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by Whitney S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents are just worried about your wellbeing. im not saying im agreeing with them, age doesn't matter in relationships, 3 years is nothing. but the reason why your parents disagree is becuz they're afraid that he might take advantage of u. guys at that age can be very... immature sometimes. they care about having fun and not taking responsibilities too seriously. your parents might be afraid that he would teach u things, or expect u to do things which your parents would not agree about. like having sex and skipping classes and going against your parents in the name of "liberty and freedom". your parents arent wrong. they're suppose to worry about your safety and wellbeing. unless u can show your parents that this guy is mature and responsible, and that he would be a positive influence in your life, i dont think your parents would agree to it.
when u're older, u'll understand how it feels to be a parent and how terrible it feels to worry about your 14 year old daughter. they disagree because they love u. its not because of the age gap. its because of the level of maturity reflected in a person's age.
2006-06-25 13:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by lil'sammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its fine now but once 17 becomes 18 its statutory rape. if your not having sex then its fine. i personally dont see the big deal but your parents are just looking after their baby girl. be glad that your parents love you and their watching out for you. if you really like him and think your mature enough for an older guy then have an adult conversation with everyone and see if you all cant agree. good luck
2006-06-25 13:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by eight beers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at your age yes, next year he can go to jail, after your 18 it doesnt matter, date a 90yr old if you want but not yet, sorry i know thats not the awnser you want.
2006-06-25 13:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by error file not found 404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Last I checked this is America
2006-06-25 13:15:28 · answer #7 · answered by Jon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-06-25 13:16:57 · answer #8 · answered by dog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no....
2006-06-25 13:15:37 · answer #9 · answered by wereinlovemnc4ever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋