first off i want to thank all of you for your great advice i dont knnow if i could possibly choose the best awnser i got very emotional reading all of the responses.but maybe i should of explained the fact that she shows no remmorse for the abortion and yes if she would of given me the chance i would have took the baby but not to feel like a replacement to the one i had lost because i was very fortunate to have her identical twin sister that survived and a wonderful 3 year old boy.she said alot of painful things to me and she never wants me to bring up the child i lost everyone would rather pretend like it never happened.i simply asked her why then she snapped at me that im a baby makeiing machine(and i knnow that does sound funny)but it was very painful .she tells me that im naieve and that my morals are backwards i dont want to fight with her i really dont .
2006-06-25 05:46:16 · 5 answers · asked by sar sar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ps im sorry for the misunderstanding i didnt mean that i was trying to forget the child what i mean is everyone else in my family would like to.i could never forget her
2006-06-25 06:19:57 · update #1
You are alot like me. I couldn't forgive my sister if she had an abortion. You are killing an innocent child. I know in the bible it says forgive and forget and I would try to do just that even though it would be kinda hard. The best thing to do is not to have anything to do with her at all unless it was absolutely necessary. That way you won't have to fight with her. I wish you in the best of luck and that was so sweet of you to take have taken your sister's baby in. God will bless you one day for that. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
2006-06-25 08:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As difficult as it is, abortion is a personal thing that can ONLY be made by the pregnant person. It is never made in haste. It was so sweet of you to give your sister another option, but in the end it was her choice. Carrying a baby full term requires a lot of work, $, drs appts, etc. That part along with the birth is not easy either. Maybe she didn't want to go through all this. You need to respect her choice and just put it behind you. Luckily you have a wonderful child and I'm sure you and your sister are both in a lot of pain from all the harsh words said. Maybe you could invite her over for lunch (get a babysitter for the kid) and start fresh. Family is special and you should all always be there for each other whether you agree with the decision or not. Good luck.
2006-06-25 12:53:13 · answer #2 · answered by Dukie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, the fact that she had an abortion was her choice.Yeh, it was a terrible and sad one, and one that in time, she will come to regret.The fact that she didnt ask you to take the baby was her choice too.I dont believe in abortions and I do think she should have given the baby up for adoption, rather than kill it. but you cant dictate to her, what to do.You went through a terrible ordeal, losing a child, and it shouldnt be forgotten.Yeh, you need to move foward, because you have other kids, but that was your child!!!She will forever be a part of you til the day you die regardless of whether or not shes here on earth.Your sister does need to understand how precious life is and that it hurts when she says things to you...like your a baby making machine.You still lost a child, she had an abortion, and it isnt fair what happened .You need to take some time away from her and let things cool down.When your ready, have her over to talk.Tell her you need her in your life, as a sister, and how you feel about everything.But you need to forgive her, for your peace of mind and your kids.If you want to(which I know you do) and when your bodies ready, you will have another child to love.But ubtil then. take care of the ones you have and never let them forget they have another sister who is in heaven and instaed of being sad about her death, remember her life and celebrate it.God is taking care of her now and she is okay....shouldnt you and her siblings be ok too???
2006-06-25 13:03:55 · answer #3 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to walk away and allow some time to pass before dealing with this situation. It sounds like everyone is an emotional basket case.
And by time, I don't mean overnight. Give it a month or more.
Good luck.
2006-06-25 12:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you CANT pretend it never happened, no matter what that child was and always will be a part of you and your sister is stupid for saying that . she's a murderer in my eyes and she should be in jail
2006-06-25 12:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋