I don't know what to do?

Question

I'm leaving for bootcamp in 3 wks I've been with my bf for a yr now but im worried he'll do "something" when I'm gone should i break up with him or stay with him. I'm open minded to anything

Answer 1

Every relationship should be based on mutual trust rather than on imagined possibilities. If you've been together for a year and have trusted him this long with no reason not too then you owe both him and yourself the same trust when apart. If that trust is broken then you have decisions to make regarding his trustworthiness.

Answer 2

I can say that when I went into the Army I had a girlfriend. We kept in touch for a few months and then we both agreed to break it off. No long term relationship is easy to keep.

I do not think you have to break it off it will happen in time by itself.

As for him looking around while you are gone it may happen but if it does it would have happened if you were here or not.

I would like to mention that you will meet many new people and have a life changing experience so even if you keep it together you will not be the exact same person you were when you left. You will have grown more confident, committed and have a clearer picture of your future than you do now.

Most likely you will grow apart no mater what you decide to do before you leave and that is part of life. TO GROW!

Answer 3

Long distance relationships don't work. Trust is the key. If you are asking this question now, their is the possibility that you don't trust him.

Leaving him (check out how to do this on "Little Black Book") will not only open up your life for new possibilities, it will his as well.

It'll hurt at first, but won't once you get their and are involved in Boot Camp. You won't have the time or the energy to think about him. Your mind needs to be %100 into where you are going right now and what you are going to be doing for your Country.

Thank you btw, for going into the Service!

Answer 4

Boot camp, eh? Hmm... About the boy, if you're WORRIED he might do something, maybe that's a sign that he's not exactly worth having. Break up with him. Then when you come back, if you still want to, go back out with him. This way there is no chance for him to cheat "on" you. Know what I mean? Otherwise you'll be heartbroken.

Answer 5

This sounds like a conversation you should be having with him instead. Let him know about your concerns. This may give you some insight as to whether the relationship is worth continuing under long distance circumstances. If you guys are a strong couple it should work out, if you aren't very sure maybe you two need to reconsider the relationship.

Answer 6

if u have date this guy for a year now i think u should have already trust him if u dont then kinda mean u never have trust him or maybe u have alittle. so u can leave him or u can trust him and believe him and know that he wont do anything to u.

Answer 7

depends, if your active duty and will be stationed elseware in the US or overseas than dump him. if your national guard or reserve and aren't going away for too long than just take a break. meaning let him see other poeple and you see other people. remember your going to meet a butt load of new people, most of them will be guys.

Answer 8

You should go to college instead of the military. Doesn't matter what he does if your head gets blown off.

Answer 9

if ur that worried, talk to him.if u trust him, then chances arae he trusts you to. and their won't be a problem. wosrt comes to worst u might have to end it, although i dont see a reason why you would have to do that, TALK TO THE GUY.

Answer 10

stay with him and play it by ear. If something does happen break up with him later and if it doesn't you will be happy you stayed with him