My mother has battled heart surgery,bone cancer, breast cancer, and last night she broke her hip that has cancer. I just left the hospital as she is in pain awaiting surgery. A strong feeling feel over me as I looked at the sky. I believe that the next few days will be the last of her life. She waited for me to marry before leaving my dad, who has since passed. I believe that she has been holding on til I found my path in life in fear of leaving me alone. She must believe in the path I have recently found,because I could see in her eyes that she has let go,and has had enough of living in pain. How do I thank her for my life? How do I make our goodbye, a charished moment in our treasure chest of memories?
2006-06-25 05:14:11 · 28 answers · asked by perfectsongforu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just be there for her is enough.I watched my gran die,she brought me up and it was like watching my mum die,just be with her,tell her you love her.
2006-06-25 05:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is just be there for her like she was for you over the next couple of days weeks or even months. I would get old photo albums and sit down with her and go over the memories with her. Your mother knows that you love her I am sure of this. I work in an environment where people die every day. Young and old. You want to make sure that she is in no pain that will help a lot. And then just be by her side. You don't need a big goodbye. A little one goes a long way. And don't forget it's not goodbye it's just I will cya later on the other side. Hope this info helped you and you are in my thoughts and prayers. May God help you throughout this time. Oh yeah I found it very comforting to those who like music gospel music to sing to them. They seemed to really enjoy this. And don't leave them alone by them selves is what some people say but you half to remember God is always there when we are not. Hoped this helped and again you are in my prayers.
2006-06-25 08:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your situation. Let her know how much you appreciate everything that she has done for you. Maybe you could make a CD with songs that show how much she means to you. You could listen to it together and give her a card that explains to her what is sometimes hard to say to another person. Don't forget to let her know how much you LOVE her. Also just let her know that although you wish she could stay around forever you understand that she is in a lot of pain and it is alright to let go. Sometimes people need their loved ones approval before letting go. Remember that you would not be the person you are today without your mother's guidance and influence. God Bless you and your mother.
2006-06-25 05:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a person dies the last thing they lose is the hearing researchers have found that they still have like 10 minutes before thats gone. Tell her everything she meant for you and what shell mean to you now that shes in heaven. Dont lose faith. Do things like you know she would have done and remember her with laughter and happy moments not with tears and remorse shes with God and youll, in some time will be reunited think of that and remember her. Its hard to let go but you dont have to because shes in your heart. Give her something that you can place in the coffin like a charm or something that means a lot to you both.
2006-06-25 05:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her.Since she is still coherent, tell her how you feel.If you can and she would like it, videotape a message from her to you and your kids or just videotape you both together.I am not sure if thats how you want to remember your mom...in a hospital bed.Let her know if she is ready to let go, you will be ok.Thats the same with my Dad who passed Feb'04.He said all he wanted was to make sure that I'd be ok and I told him no matter what, I would be fine and when he was ready to leave, he could go and everyone would understand.He lived his life for his children(which is on his tombstone).I also think you have the past to remember her by.Just keep her memory alive by talking to your kids(if you have some)about her.My youngest never met my Dad/her Papa, but she knows all about him and that if he were on this earth, how much he would love her.And that he does see her from heaven.I want them to know what a real man is(and my husband too)and they will get to know by knowing of hima and watching my husband take care of them.Hang in there and remember that God will take care of you and her.
2006-06-25 05:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I can feel your love for your mother , I'm sure she can . If there is anything that a parent wants in their lives is the happiness of their children . Reasure her and thank her for giving you life and how happy you are despite all the illness and obstacles . Let her know that it is alright to go if it is her time ,and that you will take her legacy and love with you for the rest of your life . Be as strong as possible because a parent never wants to see her child in pain ... yes even under these unforunate circumstances . May you and your mother be at peace with yourselves .
2006-06-25 05:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by getaway 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how blessed you have been by having her as your mom. Tell her about memories you have of growing up that have made it a blessing - even the ones where you got in trouble because those count too - she was doing her best and hardest job at those moments.
Most important, be there and let her know how much you love her right at that moment, not just by words, but by your actions. It's the actions in life that we remember - not the words.
2006-06-25 07:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by tcm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I am so sorry for you, I lost my mom 3 years ago and I feel your pain. I, like you, knew that mom was passing and didn't know what to do, I felt that I needed to make some kind of grand gesture but in the end was just there for her and told her that I loved her and it was OK for her not to hurt any more. That last breath was the easiest one that I saw her take in many days. I won't tell you that it wasn't the most painful time in my life but I am still glad that I was there to see her out of this world like she saw me into it. Know my prayers are with your in you time of need and e-mail me it you need someone to talk to.
2006-06-25 06:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by G-Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I buried my Mother 2 months ago, and believe me you just need to tell her whats on your heart. I did. I told her how much I loved her, thanked her for all that she sacrificed for me and my siblings.And the last thing my Mother told me was that she knew I loved her- because "A MOTHER KNOWS".You know something, a mother does know. But it sure would be nice to hear it from a person you truly love.MEMORIES are what they leave behind, make your own.
2006-06-25 06:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom already gave you a chest of memories.She loves you so much she hung on to make sure you would be o.k. now at the end you know she loves you and you her.As she was there for you just be there to hold her hand and tell her before she is gone how much you love her.Life has many things to overcome,at least at the end of her journey she is leaving behind memories for you to cherish forever.God bless.
2006-06-25 06:03:46 · answer #10 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear of your Mothers ill health.
My Mum passed away 20 months ago, I knew she only had days to live and I told her what a wonderful Mum she had been and she told me I had been a very caring daughter, it was lovely to get the chance to say how we felt, I will cherish those last few moments forever.
2006-06-25 05:22:14 · answer #11 · answered by Guernsey girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋