How do you get my 20 month old to stop hitting?

Answer 1

Tell him no. And mean it.

Answer 2

You've got to consistently enforce a punishment for the behavior. It's VERY common for a kid this age to experiment with hitting (my 3 yr old son did at that age). It lasted for a month or so, then (with consistent punishment), dissipated shortly thereafter. As far as punishment, it all depends on the child. A stern "no" is enough to rattle one where a spanking is necessary for another. Whatever the punishment, make sure it's swift (and not done irrationally or in ager on the parent's end), followed by an easy explanation of what NOT to do, then make the child apologize for the offense. Once my son apologized, I'd take him aside and tell him again that he cannot hit in a stern, quiet voice, then we exchanged hugs.

One thing you may find is that one punishment might work for 2 weeks, then becomes ineffective once your quick-witted toddler learns what will get him/her out of the situation. You may have to revamp your punishment over time, but stick to your guns otherwise. Good luck!!

Answer 3

My 25 month old has a tendency to aggression and was hitting.

As soon as she even "air hit", I would grab the hand in question and hold it up high and tight (not hurting-tight, but immobilization-tight) and stare at her right in the eyes (forcing her to look back) and say NO HIT! several times.

The arm only went down when I was sure she was getting uncomfortable (that means usually 30 seconds, an eternity in toddler time) and the smile got wiped off her face. (She tends to laugh in your face when you punish her, cheeky monkey that she is.)

And then finally make her apologize to the "victim". Followed by "Why are you sorry? Because you hit. No hitting!"

Toddlers need to learn in a very cause-and-effect way that anti-social behavior has effects.

You can't talk them out of it because its all blah-blah-blah at this age.

This "punishment" doesn't hurt them, but demonstrates to them visibly that THIS ACTION (aka that hand that just hit) did something wrong, so it has momentarily lost the pleasure of free will.

Hope this makes sense. It really worked for us -- only get the occasional distracted brush off now from her.

Answer 4

Hitting is pretty much a normal stage for a 20 month old. They do outgrow it! In the mean time, if you catch him/her in the act( Like hitting you) grab their hand and say a firm "no!" Then you can say "touch nice!" and show them what a nice touch is. If they ignore you, you can take then away from the thing they are hitting with a firm "no!"

Answer 5

Be firm with him. When he hits someone, you walk over to him grab his hand that he hit with and gently, but forcefully, not hurting, bend down and look him in the eyes and tell him "NO". I did that with all 4 of my kids and they got over it pretty quick. You aren't yelling at him, putting him in time out or spanking him, but you are telling him with the firm gesture, that is not accepted. Also, when you look him in the eyes you are also teaching him eye to eye contact, respect and that you are the authority. Then if he keeps it up after that, then put him in a special time out chair for 1 minute for each year. I would make it a point to have a chair that is just for time outs and talk to him and let him know that is what that is for. I used to call mine the "NO-NO chair". Good luck and remember that as with everything else, this too will pass.

Answer 6

Draw a chart with their name on it and a line after their name .next to that line have 15 cut out hand prints in a row after their name and every time they hit you take a hand away.At the end of the month they can get a toy if they have all 15 hand prints by their name!You can also add more reasons to get a handprint taken away if you want.Just make sure you explaine it to you child clear as day.

And you can sit a pillow in the middle of the halway and when ever they hit you or any one take he or she to the pillow and sit them down with nothing to do.No noise,toy, or anything.make he or she sit their for about 3 minutes.When they get out make he or she say sorry and explaine why he or she is sorry.

Hope this works it worked on Super Nanny!

Answer 7

use time out in a timeout chair or the corner everytime he/she is seen hitting someone. tell them that it isnt nice and you are hurting them. also you can not spank him/her for any reason either because that is going against what you are teaching them not to do. Just use timeouts and even start a sticker board so everytime they do the right thing they can be awarded..this works great with getting them to pottty train and clean there room as well

Answer 8

My son advance into precisely the comparable at that age. somebody stated that I hit him decrease back, yet I figured that advance into thoroughly counter effective, I recommend, how do you practice a new child that hitting is incorrect by potential of hitting them? So, i began out grabbing his palms and hoding them together each and every time he hit. You grab and carry her firmly, yet gently (do no longer harm her) and carry her business enterprise to evade her from getting away. Then look her interior the attention and clarify to her in an extremely calm and rational tone why she shouldn't hit, i might tell my son that hitting advance into naughty and made Mummy and Daddy very unhappy. For the 1st hit, it advance into 30 seconds, 2nd, 40s, 50s, 1min, and so on. i think of we've been given to a million minute merely as quickly as and that advance into very early on. in lots of situations, he'd hit purely a pair of times whilst he realised that his freedom advance into being constrained because of the fact of it. It took 2-3 weeks to interrupt the habit, yet we've been given there! the main needed ingredient is to stick with it and have endurance. do no longer tell your self after a pair of days that it rather is no longer working, it is going to, even yet it is going to take time. teenagers will learn that unfavorable behaviour ends up in unfavorable effects by potential of repetition, so the comparable ingredient repeatedly will supply effects. stable success!

Answer 9

i have a 18mo old who went through the same thing and i put her in her crib for a time out and now i just ask her if she wants to go nite-nite and she stops it took about a week and they will cry when you give them a time out

Answer 10

every time he hit s some one hit him back maybe if he feel that it hurts he wont do it any more

Answer 11

that is pretty typical at that age, like the one lady said pop her in her hand ( not hard) & tell her no, but remenber to praise & reward his/her good behavior. That might help....good luck!!