My grandparent's are re-newing there vowes. They are doing this in a Catholic church so we have to deal with mass before it, which i wont tolerate. Two boring things on one dreadful day. How can i get out of being in iti?
2006-06-25 04:30:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If I were you, I would do what would make me feel comfortable. If I spend my life pleasing other people other than myself, then I won't be happy. This doesn't make me a bad person. I would be living my life as a lie. I have to take care of me first.
Your grandparents invited you to their wedding and you choose not to go. They should respect that and they should get over it and they will get over it eventually! They and your family may put major guilt trips on you so you can feel bad. You don't have to take their guilt trips. You can tell whoever puts a guilt trip on you "I know you want me to go but I'm capable of making my own decisions. How would you feel if people told you what to do and how you should do things? You wouldn't like that would you?" Then pause for a moment then leave the room. Don't stand there and start debating because it will make you look like a bad person. As far as your grandparents are concerned, you can tell them "Thank you grandma/grandpa for the invitation but I'm going to have to decline. This doesn't mean I don't love you, which I do and I have nothing against you getting married in a Catholic church and I totally respect your decision, it's just that I'm not a religious person so going to church is not my style. And if I do go to the ceremony, I will just be putting an act so therefore I will be lying to myself." If your grandparents end up convincing you or putting a guilt trip on you because you don't go to their religious ceremony, you can use the example above as your rebuttle but word it to where it's a nice rebuttle not a rude one. They will get over your response. Don't let their guilt trips get to you. If you go, you go because you want to go not because you feel pressured.
If I invite people and they choose not to go, my first reaction would be to convince them and if they still don't want to go, then I respect it. I wouldn't want someone to be here if they didn't want to be, they will end up resenting me for that.
2006-06-25 09:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 5⤊ 3⤋
You can't, unless you're under the age of 5 and in diapers, and have a babysitter!!!
These are your grandparents and there are certain things you do out of respect and love for them. This is one of them! I'm Catholic and agree...the masses are long and boring. But you're not there for the mass, you're there to show your grandparents how much you love them.
So suck it up, put the suit on, and go! We only have a short time with our grandparents and should treasure every special moment with them. I would give anything to attend either of my grandparents re-newing ceremonies. But the are no longer living.
2006-06-25 13:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, everything is not always what you want. This is not about you. It is about your grandparents and I am sure they would be very upset if you were not present. It is wonderful that they are taking the time to renew their vows, how wonderful with so much divorce and sadness, I would think this would be a happy time for you. I say suck it up and be there for them, remember this is about them not you, you need to put others first sometimes, like it or not. GOOD LUCK, I hope you decide to go.
2006-06-25 11:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by Tina M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a terrible attitude to have.That is your grandparents,they wont be around forever.Imagine when something happens to one of them,you will be older and wiser.Then you will think,I couldnt be bothered going and watching their special day because I thought it was boring.You are lucky to have grandparents that are alive and together.Mine are dead,I have no family at all.How I envy you.Dont be a selfish fool.I am telling you this for your own good.You will regret this if you do not go and make an effort.please listen to me.take care.
2006-06-25 11:38:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a wonderful grandson you are!!!! I'll bet you'll be at their FUNERAL and when they read the WILL to see what you're going to inherit. Can't you just forget about what you want for one hour? How self-centered can you get, you brat!!! you should be ashamed of yourself. Maybe they'd be better off without you there anyway. Just do everyone a favor and stay home!
2006-06-25 11:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a jerk! Your grandparents aren't going to be around forever. Grow up, suck it up, go and smile through the whole thing. In 70 years you'll want your grandkids to do the same thing!
2006-06-25 11:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by BobcatChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats horrible that you want to get out of it-- you must be young (probably 12-18 yrs old if i would guess) because anyone who is older would appreciate the fact that their grandparents are renewing their vows... grow up and JUST GO!!!! your very rude!!!!!!
2006-06-26 13:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by sweetiepie22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being selfish and just thinking about yourself. Do it for your grandparents. It is not going to kill you. Can't you give them a few hours of your time, im sure they gave you a whole lot of theirs. Grow up
2006-06-25 11:38:12 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could just tell your grandparents how you feel and be up front with them, the truth will always set you free
2006-06-25 11:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by cassyann_1979us 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude the mass will only take an hour and it would break their hearts if you were not there - on the other and you could show up late and wait by the reception line and pretend you were there all along
2006-06-25 11:35:25 · answer #10 · answered by leo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋