I'm divorced and have been going out with a man for almost 3 yrs. We live together mondays and thursdays and every other weekend only. (we both have obligations with kids). Recently a divorced friend of mine told me about how much fun she's been having since she joined the MNS-for single people. Well, I became a member too and I just love checking out my mail and seeing all these flirts from divorced men. I even corresponde with a few. But.. I feel guilty, although I've never met up personally with anybody or even exchanged cell numbers, just one of my mail addresses. What do you think, is this being 'unfaithful' or just plain inocent fun?
2006-06-25 03:44:19 · 16 answers · asked by F. 44 yr old lost in argentina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Having male friends is fine, with no guilt to apply. You're having innocent fun, so long as you aren't developing emotional ties or bonds with them. Being "unfaithful" involves turning away from your partner, and applying the attachments your partner should be getting, to another. We all flirt in some manner, every day. Not always openly, or blatantly, but harmlessly none the less. Keep it as a fun game with no attachments or commitments, and it stays harmless fun. Have fun, and good luck!!
2006-06-25 03:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by nonya_askme 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You know, I am divorced and in practically the same situation. I don't see it as an issue, and it is fun to see that you are still attractive and people are showing interest in you. But it seems your concious might be thinking differently.
What about the guy you have been seeing, are you happy with him? This might be a sign that you are not really satisfied with your relationship with him, or the relationship is lacking something.
Sometimes harmless fun can turn into not so harmless fun and you might do something, that you might or might not regret. Where will it stop?
Good luck to you......
2006-06-25 03:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Im gonna go with it's unfaithful, because your with someone and behind his back ur scoping and reciveing mail from other guys. U say u haven't met with any of these guys( it's just a matter of time b 4 u do)
The reason u feel gulity is because u already know it's wrong.
What happens if ur live in finds out? U think he'll understand if u say ur just having innocent fun?
If u want out of this thing with ur live in then u should end it.
2006-06-25 03:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do you plan for this to go? Will you one day be so curious or interested that you take the next step and give out your number or meet someone. If it is just fun and you can control yourself it can just be some entertainment but be careful.
Good luck and be happy.
2006-06-25 03:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Just because your only talking to them and nothing more doesnt mean it isnt a form of betrayal. As long as you and the guys arent talking about anything explicit or sexual, or having cyber sex then i guess its ok. As long as your just flirting and not getting to into it. But this habit about flirting with guys online is mentally unhealthy and i think you should stop.
2006-06-25 03:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be thoroughly honest convinced it will be unfaithful; it style of feels as in case your making excuses as a lot as now this new guy because you do not understand the thanks to handle the guy you adore. in case you fairly love him you'll look ahead to him. I wish you the perfect :)
2016-11-15 05:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how honest you are being with the guys you are flirting with. If you are telling them you are not involved with anyone, then yes, it is cheating. If you are honest about your relationship of 3 years and not referring to anything sexual in your flirting, then no, it's not cheating. Also, have you told the man you are with physically about the flirtations? If you feel the need to hide them from him, you probably shouldn't be doing it.
2006-06-25 03:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are doing this it sounds like you are not getting what you want from your boyfriend. So ask yourself what you want or if this is just for attention. But to answer your question I would not be mad if i was your boyfriend but I would want to talk about it and work out why you do it. Good luck I hope this helps
2006-06-25 03:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by Rada2017 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I think you should consider ending your current relationship and persue the new ones. Just tell him after 3 years it just doesn't seem to be working.
2006-06-25 04:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you "flirt" you are teasing temptation for you and the other person.If you do not intend to establish a relationship with whom youre flirting with then why waste time doing that.
2006-06-25 03:52:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋