Do you think she is serious about me or not?

Question

i have been going out with my girl for almost two years and i have never met her parents , she is going to meet mine and has spoken to my mom a couple of times.Her mom and dad are muslim and im not do you think that is what is preventing her from doing this?

Answer 1

She is not, I am Muslim and I can say that. maybe she really loves you but your relationship seems impossible. in our book male Muslim can marry Christian,Muslim and Jew woman, but female Muslim can't marry but Muslim man. so she is probably if she told her family they would prevent her from seeing you at all. so she keeps finding excuses to be with you as long as possible. talk to her outright and tell her what I just wrote and she can't deny! good luck.

Answer 2

Odds are pretty good she knows her parents are not going to approve of your relationship because of the religious difference. You really should ask her, and I wouldn't push the issue.

The truth is that at the point where she is serious enough to consider you as possibly her husband, she will be willing to face her parents and any disappointment they may have. It appears she's not at that point yet.

So a bigger question, and I presume this is what you are asking is will she ever be? Only she can answer that.

If she's still unsure, then you have to decide how long you are willing to wait and see if that will happen. If the two of you are still very young, say...college-age or younger, I wouldn't sweat it yet. Time is with you and perhaps being more settled into adulthood (meaning out of school and working) will bring those answers. It is possible she's just not yet in a place where getting "that" serious is on her mind.

But if you're past college-age and she's still stalling, I think that a discussion is in order. You might as well know sooner if you are both heading in the same direction with your relationship or not.

And if you're not...well...you have yet another decision to make.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I don't know much about the muslim religion or way of life so I can't answer you from that aspect. However, I can speak to you from a woman's perspective regarding introducing a man to your family. I'm very particular about who I introduce to my parents. While I'm extremely close to my parents and I share most areas of my life with them, they don't know about every single guy I date. That being said, if I'd been going out with you for two years and hadn't yet introduced you to my parents...something would definately be wrong with that picture. If the parents live nearby and it is not a location issue, she should definately be willing to introduce you to them if she is serious about continuing a relationship with you. This is just my opinion. Why don't you just talk it over with her? Tell her that you'd like to meet them because it is something that is important to you. Maybe she doesn't know how you feel. Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

hi there,

i think she must be serious about you i mean she's been with you for 2 years thats quite a long time really but you have to remember that muslims can be very strict parents i'm not sure what her parents are expecting of her but they might even be expecting her to have an arranged marriage where she meets they bloke first then if they like each other they get married.

try talking to her about her parents are they very strict?, do they know that you are dating her daughter? you never know they might be more relaxed and shes just a bit worried about you meeting her parents.

Answer 5

i think u just answered ur own question! although, i dint think they r preventing her from anything, she is just not ready to make that step yet. she no doubt already knows that her parents wouldn't b happy because ur not Muslim and just doesn't know what 2 do about it.
why not just ask her straight out? if u have been together for 2 years already then surely u can talk 2 one another openly.
i do think she is serious about u or ur relationship would not have lasted for 2 years and still counting.

Answer 6

My family are Muslims
and I only introduced my boyfriend to them when it got really serious and it looked like marriage was on the cards

I'm from the middle east and he's from Norway so the culture's are very different and it takes a lot of courage to introduce your boyfriend to your parents - she's probably avoiding an earful.

But simply ask her - say why don't we go over to your parents one day and let her give you her answer - she's the only one who knows why ........

good luck!!

Answer 7

Religion is stopping her from taking you to meet her parents.

As far as I'm concerned, who needs them anyway? Your relationship is about the 2 of you and no-one else. As soon as parents get involved things turn into a two way battle i.e.
Xmas - would you have dinner at your parents or hers?

Best avoided mate..

Answer 8

if you have been together for two years why cant you just ask her if the issue is because of religion?
doesn't sound like a very strong relationship if you have to ask those questions on a site like this instead of having a frank and mature discussion with her. think you know the answer really.

Answer 9

Yes, I do think that is what it is.. she has probably been told to never date a non muslim, let her take her time with her parents.. if she is willing to meet yours ... then she sounds serious.

Answer 10

it could be that her family do not agree with hear seeing a non Muslim the Muslim Faith are very stickied on who there young girls see and this may be the case with her