i have delivered twins,they r really hard to take care of so my mother in law started coming to my house to help me with the babies.they r 11 month now .they want to be held and they cry alot,i could say they r so soiled.the problem is not with my twins ,it is with my mother in law.she like to get het nose involves in everything.she answeres my phone and ask alot questions very silly q like who was on the phone and what does he wants ,whos on the phone with ur husband. yesterday i was talking to somebody who was asking me about my husband so she had the phone and talked to him.when i told her that things bothers me she got mad and left the house ,she said i hate her..i really doesnt know how to deal with her or what to do.i felt like she wants to know everything in our life she reads our letter and opens our bags and se whats inside them .when her son told her thats not right she said but it is my son,s house and i could do anything. plz help what should i do?
2006-06-25 03:20:10 · 11 answers · asked by sasa 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You'll be alot better off letting your hubby handle his own mother. At least he's man enough to say something. Tell her she is welcome to be in your home as a guest; but not to nose in everything in your life. Yes, he is her son. But everyone is entitled to their own privacy. Ask her to please keep her visits brief also. Sounds like you were overwhelmed with babies and she really helped you out. Tell her how much you appreciate her help. Make her feel needed. If she asks you "why, who, what" is going on...just ask her..."why do YOU need to know?" When you marry a man, you marry his whole family!!! So try to let him settle the disagreement between you two and show each other some respect. God Bless.
2006-06-25 03:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 12:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! you poor thing. Just go to her and tell her how you feel,be nice,but honest with her,tell her how much you apprciated her help and that you don't hate her, but there are boundaries and she over stepped them. Just tell her the truth thats all you can do and don't let anyone tell you that you are wrong. I was in a similar situation years ago. I sure do feel for you. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-06-25 03:30:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let her know that u do not hate her but she needs to realize that your life is your life and if you want her to know things that you will tell her. I have had the same problem in the past and after our talk everything went smooth. Hope this helps and i hope thing work out.
2006-06-25 03:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by angel_eyes_vanzandt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plz dont take much tension, try to b frndly with her, n if its possible , though i know it isnt easy , treat her like ur own mother rather ur in law,,,,,,,,,,,,,,i hope u will very soon the good results , its only U who can change the conditions, she is older enough not to change her habits, but u r young and U CAN do it,,,,,,,,
its called life dear, its nothing , just adjustments,,,
2006-06-25 03:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by fuad_enjoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick her out, seriously. She's crossing way too many boundaries and controlling your lives. Tell her she can come over and help if she wants, and you both would really appreciate it, but she needs to respect your home and your lives. She'll argue and whine to no ends but that's tough. She needs to GROW UP!!!
2006-06-25 03:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congratulations on ur new birth twins!!!!!!!!
i can say that u can do anything to avoid with this matter
what u can do just go by the rythm bcuz ur mother in law is old i belive and just be patient or talk 2 ur husband.
!!!!!!!!!GOOD LUCK AND HAVE NICE DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-25 03:35:59 · answer #7 · answered by t-man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you don't need her help anymore and get someone to help with cleaning house and you take care of your twins.
2006-06-25 05:00:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to your husband about your concerns and then asked your husband if he can talk to his mom about the issues that you have with your mom-in-law.i know if you will be the one who will going to talk to her for sure she will just going to misinterpret all the things that you will tell to her.as a piece of advise also, just be patient with her.dont talk back to her if she will be nagging at you or what...just pray for her soul...just kidding...i mean just really tell your husband to talk to his mom in a nice way
2006-06-25 04:08:39 · answer #9 · answered by trendycurly16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lock the doors and dont answer the phone when she trys to call.
2006-06-25 03:27:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋