So, parenting experts...do you just let your baby run your house? Is that what good parents do?

Answer 1

hell no !

Answer 2

It is clear you were not ready to have children. But then who is. Babies have always been and will always be, work. But they are more than well worth it. It may seem like your baby runs your house....and perhaps it will for awhile. That is all part of having children.

As they grow older and are able to understand what you tell them you can set rules. Until then they only know they have needs and someone must meet them.

While this may seem hard for you now just step back and look at what you have. A small person that would not be here if not for you. Having a baby is a privilege not a chore. So many people can not have children and would give anything to have your problems.

No one promised having children would be easy. If they did it would be clear they never had one. As they grow older you will see that it is all well worth it. But only if you take very good care of it and love it with all your heart.

Answer 3

Well, I let my kids run the house as newborns. My youngest is almost a year and I'm just starting to cut out his night feedings now.

My older kids know they have limits and will be punished if they violate the rules. We don't spank, we use time outs and positive reinforcements. And it seems to work. We're generally pretty happy (I have depression but I'm working on that). Everywhere we go people comment on how well-behaved and cheerful our kids are. I think we are "attahcment parents" we do the co-sleeping and all that (until age 18 months, then it's off to your own bed you wiggly little worm, LOL!)

But I breastfeed on demand, or did anyway when baby was smaller. I always answer their cries because I don't think crying is manipulation, it's communication. Answering a baby's cries teachers her to trust the world around her.

I'm also a slummy mummy a lot. We spend a lot of time lazing around the back yard or the park. We also watch a lot fo movies when we're inside. Video games are out though. (My PS2 is hidden upstairs).

Answer 4

Good parents establish rules and routines. When it's bedtime, so says the clock. Things that are not to be touched, should be put up until the child understands not to touch them.

I am currently waiting for my 6h & 7th child. The children that I do have, are all in gifted & talented curriculums.

Yes, we have fun and rough-house sometimes. Sometimes our house is even messy, but then we clean it up when we're through. We do lots of fun things. But I try to make as much as I can into a learning experience. And always have rules. If a child acts up, we leave and go home. If they act up at home, they do chores. I don't spank my children either. I have ground rules, and routines that I haven't broken. And I believe that this is what works.

Answer 5

After reading your other questions I'm really starting to wonder if your right in the head. You keep slagging a 6 month old baby who doesn't even know what s/he has been born in to.

Either your just posting on here to get attention you obviously don't get at home or you need to be told to grow up and take responsibility of the 2 children you've bought into the world.

Go and see your doctor and discuss this with him or her

Answer 6

I can't say that I didn't or that on days it feels like the kids run the house, but they shouldn't run the house. They need set limits and consequences for going beyond those limits. And that varies per kid. My son loves swimming, watching movies and playing computer games. So those are what get taken when he crosses the line. My daughter on the other hand could care less about those things so taking those from her doesn't bother her...she gets her dress up dresses and baby dolls taken away.

Answer 7

NO!! Letting children rule your life is not love that is a lazy person taking the easy way out! Saying yes is much easier than saying NO.being a good parent is staying two steps ahead of the child to protect him/her from danger.Being a good parent is saying (No ) and sticking to it.Being a good parent is having the good sense to know when the child is fibbing and you let them know it. I have 5 sons 2 daughters. Being a good parent is teaching your child respect and being an example to them.

Answer 8

No, the baby becomes a part of the household. They do not run it, you make concessions for them, but you do it with the intent of making them happy and secure enough to fit in easily.

We get up ad feed the baby at 2 AM and then put them back to bed, knowing that their feeding schedule will change and in a relatively short periond of time, they will pretty much sleep through the night.

We know that if we show them we love them and we will take care of them when something is wrong, that they will become secure and cry less.

When my son was little, I never tiptoed during nap time, in fact, when he was real small. I used the stroller in the house. I let him nap where the noise was. He learned to sleep in spite of the TV and voices and company.

At the same time, at night, I put him in his crib to sleep. I did not rock him to sleep. Before I put him in, I made sure his needs were met. I left a small light on in his room and he learned to sleep in there.

Answer 9

If by baby you mean newborn , then yes.Welcome to the new job . The hours are long , the pay can not be spent at any store , the boss is demanding , there is no paid vacation, sick leave or personal days and that's just life until he/she gets a little older.

Answer 10

No, the parents are the parents and and they make and enforce the rules. But we make concessions according to the child's age and ability to follow certain rules.
My 2 year old does not like to lay down for a diaper change and, for us, spanking is not an option. We distract him. Once we put a toy in his hand, he focuses on that toy and is perfectly compliant while we change him.
Respect is learned by example. If you respect your child, he will respect you. Do not teach respect by fear. Raise your child with love and respect and he will want to love and respect you.
You asked for my opinion so there it is.

Answer 11

no of course. let the children know who's in authority and teach them to respect that.

don't ever think that you're gonna let them do as they please just because they are small, young, and vulnerable but think what they will become when they grow up.

parents should know when to become a friend to them and when to become just parents. When to pamper them and when to discipline.

in a society where a family is one of its unit, everyone has a role to play. teach them the concept of this for them to understand why parents must be the way they are.