2006-06-25 01:54:48 · 15 answers · asked by ladyani75 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
First of all, you must know what is the reason behind it. Is it that you have been too busy working and didn't spend enough time with her? Or is it that a promise that you don't even remember and you have broken? Now it's the school holidays, maybe you didn't spend enough time bringing her out?
Secondly, you have to tell her that yelling is a very rude act and ask her if she likes it if everyone yells at her as well. If she treat people with respect, people will treat her with respect.
If all attempt fails, maybe you have to use another way. Try not to talk to her, and all of you ignore her. And if she asks you why, tell her that she made you and your family angry because she is very rude.
See what happens next. Take care. Do not use any force..it's no use for this era. You got to be patient.
Cheers,
Brandon
2006-06-25 02:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by tr3dio 1 · 9⤊ 2⤋
Pick a consequence and deliver it when she does not behave. (no tv, no favorite snack, etc.) Keep it simple and be consistant. DO NOT get emotional. That confuses the heck out of kids.
When a policeman pulls you over for speeding, he is not pleading with you not to speed and break the rules, he calmly delivers the ticket and drives away. Parents need to do the same thing when discliplining. Lose the drama and just stick to the issue.
However, let her be mischevious sometimes if the intention is not to defy you. Children are naturally curious. Don't punish her if she is generally doing something age-appropriate. Instead, use it as an opportunity to teach about safety, etc.
Good Luck. She is probably a very smart young lady.
:-)
2006-06-25 02:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by lookingtomove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not result in corporal punishment, it will mostlikely contribute to her rebelling and increase of aggression from her as well.
Be firm, maybe even a little harsh but not cruel. Establish authority, without being too overwhelmingly oppressive. Set a firm and understandable rules.
Constantly guide her to what is right and what is wrong and do your best to explain why. Don't give up, be persistent. Deviant behaviour can be corrected with proper placement of punishment such as loss of certain privelious and freedoms and explain to her why. And of course good behaviour is rewarded equal to the act. (the greater the behaviour, the greater the reward) Keep trying.
And if all fails then seek the professional help of an family consellor, and if unavailble seek the following professionals :D :
Dr. Phil,
Dr. Zeus,
Oprah,
Montell,
Sally Jesse Raphel,
or Nanny 911
good luck.
2006-06-25 02:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by jay w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is talking to a child nicely and then there is talking to them sternly. You want your child to know you mean what you say. Children will always try to see what they can get away with, Half the time I think I grew a pair of eyes in the back of my head after having my kids. My oldest always trys to sneak something up to his room or get into the frig for something so I have to be on my toes at all times along with making sure they know that I mean what I say when I say it ...They will always push my buttons that is the roll of kids and parents.
My job is to be parent and to look out for the best interest of my children, it isn't a well liked job or an easy job, but I knew that going into it and I except that it isn't going to get any easier either.
2006-06-25 02:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by Not a Daddys Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just being curious. You should try to remember what it was like when you were her age. Then talk to her but don't be a big softy because my kids definitely know that I'm a softy. I've been trying to change that image but it's hard to back track. Be firm with her and timeouts as cheesy as they sound work! They say that timeouts should be as long as they are old, and I always add on time when they get up or misbehave while in timeout.
2006-06-25 02:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by katieebweb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the parent. make her understand that bad behavior is not acceptable. try timeouts and taking away her favorite toy, tv show etc.. If you believe in spanking, only use it as a last resort. Take control now, because when she hits the teaanage years you'll be sorry
2006-06-25 02:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by msfixit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to test you to see what she can get away with. Kids are very clever and they will push you to see how far they can go. You need to let her know who the adult is and that she will not get away with talking to you like that. Try talking to her pediatrician for ideas on discipline.
2006-06-25 02:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by tmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried not being her friend and being her parent..i find myself often trying to be the good guy with the same results and them still expecting more..i have resently been taking a stand and letting mine know,you get what you give..even going with a tantrum and tear..
2006-06-25 02:00:39 · answer #8 · answered by onewaybb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be firm, make it clear to her why being mischievous upsets u and have consequences to her action. e.g. no TV or video games for awhile
2006-06-25 01:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow a spine.
2006-06-25 01:58:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋