she has been controled by her parents for years,it seems i'm the interloper
p.s. they refuse meet to me,at one point a shotgun was mentioned, seriuosly!!!
2006-06-25 01:40:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
did you do something bad? how about surprising her parents by going to their huse unannounced. bring gifts, and wear your best smile. convince them that you love their daughter and you wouldnt do anything to hurt her. tell them she is the best thing that happened to you. that you will never be whole without her. she completes you. tell them you worship her. that she is your goddess. that you became alive when she came along. bring your girlfriend as buffer and if in case they shoot you, someone will bring you to the hospital.
2006-06-25 01:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by luvdoctor 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before, I start. I am assuming that they don't have a justifiable reason to hate you, such as beating your girlfriend or shooting her up full of drugs?
This is common problems that seems to never go away. If anyone has ever seen "Meet the Parents" starring Ben Stiller and Robert DeNiro, we know exactly the type of situation you're in. This type of stuff should've died out with Romeo and Juliet. Just goes to show you how much we've advanced and learnt over the centuries.
The first thing I suggest you do is get your life in order. If and when the time comes when your girlfriend needs to go and live with you, you'll have the means of supporting each other. The second is have a very serious conversation with the women you're in love with and ask her what she thinks and feel that needs to be done. Lastly, I think both you and your girlfriend should be prepared that her family may never like you. I think you should try to live your life without trying to get her parents involved too much. If you, they try keeping you away from each other, then screw them and subvert.
Best of luck to you and keep fighting for love...
2006-06-25 08:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by Tristan K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would question how you are going to work through this problem when you know that the woman you love has allowed this strong hold on her up to now. Do you think you can honestly change the circumstances that have allowed this relationship to continue? Step back and take a hard long look at all the battles you may be waging and where will your love be standing during the fight. Will she be happy without her family? Can you force her to make a choice and would you want to do that? Good luck to you and hope the best for all of you.
2006-06-25 09:00:12 · answer #3 · answered by folklore 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself two very important questions. 1. Am I willing to go through all of this hell for her hand in marriage, and for her love? 2. Will I still be willing after marriage to stand my ground as her husband even if her family never likes me? If you answered yes to both of those questions, then I have two impolite words for you to consider in this matter..."Screw Them! If she feels the same way then take control of your lives and be together! I asume looking at your ID that you were born in 1970, that makes you 36 this year, and if she is your age or nearly your age you both should not be living like this! Be ADULTS, and stand up against anyone and anything that is trying to keep you two apart!
2006-06-25 09:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by strawberrysudha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OPINION: I am afraid that it is not up to you. She has to be the one to make a stand. If this relationship is going for the long term she will have to take a side and stick to it. If she chooses you over her parents her parents might back down. You have to ask yourself if she is willing to take that chance with you. Are you worth more than her family?
2006-06-25 09:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by Rev Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im Greek and my boyfriend is spanish, my boyfriend wasn't a choir boy growing up, has tattoos, etc., my mom loves him like a son, my father doesn't like his tattoos, that he's spanish, doesn't really want to meet him til we get married, you see my father believes that he really isn't into me, just using me, but we love each other, we will get married one day just not now, anyways, every time that I speak to my dad we get into arguments over him, my father is very old school european, and not happy that's he's not white, anyways, if you are in love with her, truly in love, and she is the same, all will work out for both of you, you have to remember that it's all about both of you and really not about your families...It would be nice for both families to love each other, but that's not always the case, if you both love each other live life that way...for both of you who is really ONE spirit...Good Luck with the family...
2006-06-26 13:57:12 · answer #6 · answered by theodorais 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to carry your relationship ...she would have to agree to cut the strings with them ...till they come around /if they do on her terms .You do not want to meet people like this !!! Is their a reason why they control her that you know . Is it their religion ?
2006-06-25 08:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by HAPA CHIC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish you would have included your age.but wow! what a dilema.are these people from the hills or what? parents that are that controlling and narrowed minded i doubt you will ever get through to or make them happy! but.....you only have to make two people happy YOURSELFandHER!good luck to you your gonna need it. p.s. you may wanna get your own shot gun as well! lol (kiddin)
2006-06-25 08:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by lnay69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh?! A shotgun?! Ok anyway just chill out and just think its not her parents you want to be with its her!
2006-06-25 08:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by xThousandxTearsx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those parents are insane..... try to win them over somehow. if that doesnt work get the girl to move out and try to convince them frm those grounds
2006-06-25 08:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by Sebb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋