how can I cope with my dogs death?

Question

I've had her for a Very long time. she's been gone for about a month now, yet everyday I wake up missing her. What can I do to ease the pain???? Also, I got another pet, but its just not the same...

I've had her for a Very long time. she's been gone for about a month now, yet everyday I wake up missing her. What can I do to ease the pain???? Also, I got another pet, but its just not the same...
please note that i did not in any way, want to 'replace' her, i thought it would help the grieving process by getting another love.

please note that i did not in any way, want to 'replace' her, i thought it would help the grieving process by getting another love.

sorry for the repeats, my computer's so dumb. just ignore the repeats ok.

Answer 1

it will take time.and i am so sorry for your lose

Answer 2

The dog must have been with you for a long time, so it will take a while. He/she was part of your family, so you lost a family member. It would be the same if you lost your mother or father. No one can ever replace the family member, because she/he was part of your heart.

It will take a while, but you will get use to her/his lose, but there will always be a spot for the pet. Try to remember how she/he played with you, and remember all the fun stuff you did together.

The other pet won't take the place of the one you lost, but sometimes it helps to have another one. You can give the one you have extra love. Is the new pet the same type or different?
It might help ease the ache in your heart a little, but I know you will never forget your other one you lost. Just take it one day at a time, and like I said it will ease up some, but you will always remember the one you lost.

My friend just lost her dog also. It was hard on her husband. They buried the dog out in their backyard, put a stone to mark it, and when he feels sad, he will go visit her. But, at first it was hard for him, so his wife took him away for a little vacation to get his mind off of her. He still misses her, but it is a little better for him. But with the grave close by, that has eased some of his pain, because he knows he can go and talk to her whenever he wants.

I hope this helped you some, and I am sorry for your loss. I would be in the same boat as you, for I have three doxie's, and if something were to happen, I would be heart broken. Try to have a good night.

Answer 3

So sorry for your loss. We put our almost 17 year old poodle down a little over two years ago. Her ashes, a photo of her and a stuffed poodle are on a shelf in the bedroom. Her toy rabbit is sitting on the headboard of the bed. It takes a long time to get over the loss of a pet because in some ways, we are closer to them than to the humans in our life. Pets depend on us for everything, and they give us unconditional love. After my Molly died I put together a photo album of her from the time we got her until her death. I put her AKC papers and other important items in an envelope in front of the album. I still have photos of her all over the house.

Our springer spaniel was 8 when Molly died, so we already had another dog that we loved already in the house. I want another poodle, but keep putting it off, thinking that she would think I am trying to replace her, but she can't be replaced. She is in my heart forever.

A month is not a very long time for your grief to ease. It will take much longer, but just remember the good times you had with your pet. I slept with Molly's rabbit at night for awhile. I still walk by her ashes and hug them now and then (maybe I need help)!

You are not alone in grieving for your dog. A lot of people will say "it's just a dog, get over it" but dog lovers know that it not true. Our pet's are part of the family, so the grief is just a real as when a human family members dies.

There is a poem out called "Rainbow Bridge" that is really sweet and might make you smile and cry. Here's the website http://rainbowsbridge.com/Poem.htm

Just know that time will ease the pain and your loss.

Answer 4

It takes time to get over the loss. There is a grieving process that has to be gone thru. You may have gotten another pet to soon. It's not going to ease the pain of your loss until you have gotten thru all of your grief. It was 7 months before I got a new dog after my best friend died and I didn't expect the new dog to be anything like my old friend and the relationship that we had together. This one is different but just as good in it's own way. It does get better, but I won't lie to you,it's been 6 years now and there are times when I still miss her.

Answer 5

Accept yourself and your own emotions... take time to cry if you need to ...rent Ol'Yeller it's always good for a few tears, buy comfort food ...spend time 1:1 with a friend who is supportive and understands, maybe while walking your new friend. Do what you would if you lost any other loved one, maybe if you have some photos you could get a nice frame for an enlarged one and/or make a scrap book of favorite times. Once you have paid your respects in a memorial type service with only supportive and understanding friends, one is enough, doesn't even have to be a human, put the picture in a spot that makes you satisfied , look through your scapbook whenever you want to ...and now you know your life is richer for the companionship you shared. No one can ever take away those memories and totally ignore people who say dogs will not be in Heaven , because we know ALL DOGS GO TO HEAVEN.

Answer 6

First of all I want to say I am sorry about your dog.
You will miss her even for a longer period of time. You had your dog a very long time and you just cannot get her out of your head and heart that easy. Pets are like our children and when one dies there is a tragic loss. If a child dies we do not ever get them out of our mind and our hearts, and we do not want to. Well it is the same for pets. You had alot of memories with your dog, your dog had a certain personality and you will never forget it. As time goes by it will get easier, but a month is not close to being long enough.
You got another dog too soon. Your heart was not quite ready for a new one in your life. You can love this new dog, but it isn't the same. Do not try to replace your other dog, keep the memory alive.
There is really nothing you can do to ease the pain except to think in your mind that your dog is not gone, it is still with you in your heart, body and soul. Your dog's spirit is still with you and will never be gone. Time will heal, but it does take time.

Answer 7

Dogs provide unconditional love so going through the grieving process is understandable. A memorial at home with family and very close friends can help.Have a candle service and declare all the great things and memories this dog provided for you. It could be a private memorial. This is done when you are ready. It represents closure. the grieving process includes: denial, anger, bargaining, depression (intense sadness) and then acceptance.You might write down your feelings. Engage in activities with the new dog. She might help you also. Make the affirmation that you will move on. Give yourself more time.Positive memories help. I believe getting another dog may have been too soon, but you and the new dog can help start making memories now.This grief will pass. You can do it.

Answer 8

I am very sorry for the loss of your dog. It will take time to heal. I felt lost when my cat of 15 years passed away with cancer...I had him ever since I was a little kid. This might sound cheezy, but one thing I did was put together a little album of my cat and wrote down memories. It really helped! Now I look at the book and smile from all the good memories. I also got another pet and quickly learned that for me, it made the healing process a lot more difficult. I felt like I was replacing my cat. I ended up giving the new pet to a good friend. Three years later I was ready for another pet. Best of luck, and don't forget to CRY when you need to. Don't listen to people who say it's crazy to cry over a pet. Pet's are like family :)

Answer 9

My heart goes out to you on the loss of your beloved dog. I have had so many dear fur friends pass on, and some of them will never be forgotten. Over time, the pain lessens and leaves behind the wonderful memories of friendship and joy that you experienced.
Your new dog can never be a true replacement for the one you lost, but it can be your friend and help you love again.

Here are some colleges with veterinary schools of medicine that have pet bereavement hotlines. Calls are answered by veterinarian students who have been specially trained to listen to and help people who are grieving over the loss of their pet.

CA - UC Davis: 1-800-565-1526
Mon - Fri 6:30 - 9:30 pm Pacific
www:vetmed.ucdavis.ed/petloss

MA - Tufts: 1-508-839-7966
Mon - Fri 6:30 - 9:30 pm Eastern

MI - School of Vet Med: 1-517-432-2696
Tues - Thurs 6:30 - 9:30 pm Eastern

NY - Cornell: 1-607-253-3932
Tues - Thurs 6:00 - 9:00 pm Eastern

IA - Iowa State Univ: 1-888-478-7574
May - August Mon, Wed, Fri 6:00 - 9:00 pm Central

WA - Washington State Univ. 1-509-335-5704
Mon - Thurs 6:30 - 9:00 pm, Sat 1:00-3 pm Pacific

www.bestfriends.org/theanimals/pdfs/
allpets/PetLossResources.pdf

May you dance forever with the beautiful memories of your dearest friend.
Lucy

Answer 10

I lost my best friend about 3 years ago, we had to put her down. Alot of tears were shed and still at times we cried. Something that helped us was we made a scrap book and it contained pictures of all the adventures we had been on with her. It seemed to comfort us and to this day we will open the book and enjoy all the memories we had. Since then we have gotten another dog, not to replace her but someone new to love. There are times we will compare the two and that always brings us smiles, remembering how unique she was. We know that she is in a wonderful place right now and is just waiting to see us again. Don't let your grief take away all the joy you two have shared, someone is taking very good care of her now.

Answer 11

I am so very sorry for your loss. The grieving process for a beloved pet is just like the one for a human. See if their is a pet loss support group in your area, I know some places have them. Start with your local humane society or adoption centers. Have you had a memorial service for your pet? Some people do that. It does not have to be a big event, just a few close friends and family where you could get together to share some stories of your dog, it really helps. You may want to wait a bit to get a new pet, because he/she will never be able to truly replace your dog that has passed over (I do believe that they do pass over to heaven or what ever you call it like humans and are waiting for us when we pass over). You will not want to be disappointed in your new dog because he/she is not like your first dog, they can since things like that. Again I am terribly sorry for your loss and the pain you are going through.