Some people answers that he makes me his slave but i dont likeeeee ittttttttttt. it really hurts i just get afraid of him and dont know how to let him know that i hate toughness and get hurt by his tough way and the strngth he uses to make himself satisfied completely . i just cant tell him i wish to let him feel i dont want this treatment. NOTE: i cant leave him.
2006-06-24 23:35:27 · 12 answers · asked by Roroooosh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
some men and women,, are turned on by this type of roleplay,, named Master/slave,, but only when both partners are interested in it,, if you do not like it,, you must tell him that and he will stop this coz he will not be happy when you are not on the same manner,, but I had to tell you that he probably will try to find another girl interested in that ,, if this type of sex is important to him to be turned on.
2006-06-25 00:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by hard_cane0 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bondage can be a lot of fun, but it isn't for everyone and it sounds like it isn't for you. But you already knew that.
Here's what I read in your question:
"it hurts"
"I don't like it"
"it really hurts"
"I just get afraid"
"I hate toughness and get hurt"
"I don't want this treatment"
Then here's what else I read:
"I just can't tell him"
"I can't leave him."
The first statements were all truth.
THE LAST TWO WERE TOTAL LIES.
And worse, they're lies you tell yourself and you believe.
Except, you can't lie to me, because I know the truth.
You CAN tell him. and you CAN leave him.
None of us can do it for you.
Look, chick, you make your choices, and you live with them. Don't you want the choice that doesn't include bruises and the loss of your self-esteem?
Hey, I know you enjoy playing the victim. You found a bf who will abuse you, then you come online and ask this question so you can get credit for being a victim. but that's YOUR CHOICE. You DON"T have to be a victim, and you can tell him, and you can leave him.
Here's the easiest way: Show your bf this question on Yahoo answers, and show him what other ppl think of him & how he treats you. If he suddenly realizes he's been hurting you & wants to stop then you have a chance. If he doesn't care & keeps on doing it, then you have your answer. He'll never stop, and the only reason to keep seeing him IS IF YOU WANT TO BE ABUSED. So, make a choice and have a spine.
2006-06-26 06:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't hurt. maybe he is a sadist. Are you nude? That is usually a tip off.Real sadists like to tie up their women nude. I won't go for it. I love being tied up but always in what they call bedroom bondage, so lingerie, always stockings and a garter belt. I am spooked by anyone that wants to tie me nude, you are too vulnerable. for some reason the stockings and garter belt seen to give you power over men, even when your tied.
Set down the rules that you must be pleasured and orgasmic and not hurt, or you will have him punished. That is not a hard thing to do these days. Maybe you should dress like a dominatrix, corset, stockings, boots and whip and confront him with a pair of handcuffs and see how he likes it.
2006-06-25 11:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot of guys that are tying up their gf only do it to increase the enjoyment for their gf. That way they can tease them to really turn them on and it works the other way around too.
If he's doing it that it hurts he's doing it wrong. He's just interested in pleasuring himself and he only using you to do so.
You have to find a backbone & either tell him or leave him. God help you if you don't.
2006-06-25 05:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by lover of the ocean waves 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, if he's doing something you don't like, let him know! Tying up is a dominance thing, sex is a getting-off thing, if he can't get off without you being tied to the bed, well it's your kink, but maybe find some other ways?
2006-06-24 23:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by gokart121 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a nasty piece of work. Get help from friends and family and leave him.
2006-06-24 23:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by london_calling 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
note: you can.
and no, it isn't normal to the majority of the men population, to tie up their women and hurt them.
wake up and smell the insanity of his ways!
2006-06-24 23:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by v_stroke_28 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex should be enjoyed by both the patners, so be opened and teel ur feelings , then only he will know ur thoughts or he thinks that u r also enjoying it
2006-06-24 23:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by fun guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
isnt the physical pain you feel real? cant you say enough and find real love without redicoulous role playing ?
2006-06-24 23:42:53 · answer #9 · answered by craig c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When pain becomes pleasure you love it. Jesus was nailed on the cross, pain become pleasure for the Jesus.
2006-06-24 23:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by ilove_ y 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋