I am 15 and i don't feel confident at school?

Question

I always feel really shy around other people (ie not my close friends). I have lots of friends but find it hard to make others, especially boys, i feel intimidated. what shall i do? any suggestions?

Answer 1

You must have some confidence otherwise you wouldn't have any close friends confidence really helps you to make friends, just try a little harder, and try not to feel intimidated. Perhaps try and change your appearance. Ask your friends good friends will always tell you the truth.

Answer 2

You will grow out of this. Being 15 is a very trying time, I would never lift my head and look at people in the eyes when I was your age. Self confidence comes with learning how to handle strangers and a smile is worth a thousand frowns. Be patient, be a bookworm if that helps, above all, be your own boss - if some boys think that you can be intimidated they will make a fool of you every time. I found that sport helped me gain self-confidence.
Best wishes - Kay.

Answer 3

You know what? A lot of teens feel that way. I'm 21 and I still feel kinda like that. I think it's just a part of growing up, especially during your teen years its hard and a lot of times people end up doing things they regret to try to be someone they aren't. My best advice is to stick to your guns; be who you are and everything will eventually fall into place. I know that sounds like such a generic and stupid answer, but that's really the best advice that I can give you. I definately remember 15 and it was a weird time for everyone --- you do a lot of growing up in high school, but looking back, it was one of the best times in my life so far. Try to enjoy yourself and just get out more, sometimes getting a part - time after school job or volunteering helps because you get out and talk to a lot of people in the process as well. Or maybe, join a club or sports team, that always helped coming out of the shell too.

Answer 4

You was kinda like me shy around certain people and not shy around my friends. I'm kinda breaking out of if but just be yourself and everything will be okay. Your real friends wouldn't really care about you being shy as long as they like you for who you are. Well for boys there are a whole bunch of boys in this world and one will jump out the sea looking just for you. Don't go looking for a boy let them look for you. Feel more confident in what you do and when someone gives you a negative remark just don't pay any mind to it. Put it in your mind that your pretty and don't say your ugly because that will just lower your confidences.

Do whats best and the best wishes to you

GI GI C.

Answer 5

I was the same way in my younger years...I made myself go up to a boy that i was interested in and started talking to him...I found out,it's not really that hard after all...And to top that he was shy like me...WE went to a movie and had alot of fun,but we decided than we would be just good friends...The zing wasn't there after we went out,but the friendship was...If i could do it then,you and do it now...Have some confident in yourself and you will make alot of new friends...
Clowmy

Answer 6

Take your time no need to run to modify your personnality as you won't be yourself and you might loose your close friends and after all if those guys want to be your friends they'll come to you naturally and it might take sometime. You will change with time don't be scared, evolution is a matter concerning everyone. Bon courage (it is french look at the meaning in a dictionary dear student)

Answer 7

I spent most of seventh grade and all of eight grade in homeschool. I figured out I have depression. I am fourteen and going to highschool soon and I don't know what i'm going to do. I only have two friend and they won't be going to the school i'm going to. You might have depression, see a doctor before you decide though. I have always had the same problem about not making friends. I made all of my friends in kindergarten.

Answer 8

Self denfence lessons so you feel tougher and more confident like buffy the vampire salyer...


Also guys like girls like that ... How many have the hots for jessia Alba or the fictinal Lara Croft?

Plus you get fitter and stretchier... Try doing all the stretching exercises and watch the guys notice you.

Likewise take up things like skydiving, bungee jumping, surfing, jetskiing (subject to budget)


Pole dance lessons would also help you feel sexier and get fit. (they are pretty popular now and no boys allowed.

Mentioning that casually will def get their attention and they will want to see your moves.


PS most guys are more scared of you or messing up trying to chat you up then you are of them and they love girls to make the first moves.

Activities that encouraging touching ie forgetting how to play pool even though your nickname is The Hustler helps to get guys

Answer 9

ALWAYS keep in mind that everyone, even (and especially) the boys are just as intimidated and freaked as you are. when you are like, 13-16, everyone is totally intimidated by everyone else, and its so, so hard to just be yourself and not worry about what other people think. if I were in your place (again), I'd just try simple things like talking to people you normally wouldn't want to because you're scared or embarrassed, chances are, they want to talk to you, even if they seem like they're all cool and don't care or whatever. smile. laugh off the mean things people say or **** that other teenagers give you. believe me, I'm 21 now, and it definitely, DEFINITELY gets better as you practice;)

Answer 10

OMG.. I'm the same.. I'm only 14.. and I'm in an all girls school.. but it's really horrible.. I just wanna scream sometimes.. but I can't.. I think the best thing to do is try and be more confident.. but only do it when you need to.. I really hate being shy and I'm trying so hard to be confident.. you just have to say to yourself.. I am what I am and if people don't like me for who I am f*ck them .. I don't need them! .. Excuse the swearing..