Ok so my boyfriend and i are moving out together and hes got this dog that he loves dearly and has been a big part of his life - I cant stand the thought of an animal living in the house with me because i don't think thats very sanitary, but i don't want to take his dog from him. . . . . . I'm not sure what to do to make us both happy in this situation.. . . . . . The dog tears up everything, chews corners off pillows, sheds, its just not comfortable to think of what it would be like moving all of my nice things in with the dog.. . . . what should i do? ? ? ?
2006-06-24 21:51:35 · 22 answers · asked by streetdestroyer 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
I love the dog too and hes a pit bull
2006-06-24 22:02:19 · update #1
maybe u could talk to him about having the dog trained so that at least it won't ruin your stuff. and maybe talk to him about only allowing the dog in certain places in the house, i.e. keeping him out of your bedroom so that there's one place you can go and not feel un-sanitary.
2006-06-24 21:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by tinkerbelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be true to your self and tell him how you feel about it but you also can't expect him to give up his dog that he loves for you; you will need to see if you can find a middle ground that you both can live with. Compromise and communication are the cornerstones of a good working relationship.
Depending upon whether you have fenced in yard or area of the country you live in, perhaps the dog can stay outside most of the time and only be allowed in to certain rooms. If the dog is not well behaved, then maybe you could both take it to dog obedience training.
Another option, depending on if he is open to it, is if either of you has a close friend or relative that lives nearby that would want the dog he could still go visit it.
Best of luck to you!
2006-06-25 05:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally I would say get used to it, but this is tough, since it tears everything up. You really don't want to get your stuff chewed up do you? Maybe he can send the dog to live with someone who likes it and doesn't mind the rowdiness. Then he could go visit it anytime he hangs out at that person's house. that's what I did with my golden cause the landlord wouldn't let us have dogs. If you can't get him to concede in this area, I wouldn't move in with him just yet. If you're going to live with someone, you have to be able to stand everything about them and if he keeps the dog, you'll be miserable I bet.
By the way, dogs are more sanitary than humans. Even the ones that roll around in their own poop are. I've known people who have babies and dogs and the baby doesn't get sick or rashes or infections. Who has less immunity than a baby?
It's just gross to deal with the poop in the house and having all the stuff chewed up. Vacuuming up hair sucks and the dog can stink after a couple of days too.
You never know, he might be willing to leave him behind.
2006-06-25 04:59:08 · answer #3 · answered by Rockstar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was young my parents had a labrador that was restricted to the kitchen and dining room area. That way it kept the carpet clean and the couches as well. He would get as close as he could to the carpet cause he wanted to be close, but he learned his boundaries in the house. Only occassionally he walked on the carpet like if he was scared during a thunder storm.
Anyway some dogs are pretty filthy, but some are pretty clean I think. It depends on what kidn of dog he has too I guess. I have a kitty and he tears a lot up too and when he comes up to cuddle with me (as he is now) that is more important than having to pick up a few ripped paper towels.
There are good combs and shampoos to keep the dogs coat clean and with less shedding.
2006-06-25 04:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by pizzagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could the dog live outside only? Build an enclosed area in the back yard, with a dog house and covered area.
If the backyard is not an option, then . . .
Well I am a cat person, so I'd dump the boyfriend, seriously. I wouldn't tolerate a dog in my house either.
2006-06-25 05:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by TechnoRat60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can tell him how you feel and that you know how important the dog is to him and you dont want him to have to choose so you were wondering if it would be ok to have one room designated for the dog when you are not home like for him to sleep in and you can decorate it with all kinds of things for him to do while he is in the room. and so he isnt just coped up all day when you are home the dog could run around outside. that way he will have the dog and the dog wont be tearing up the house. hopefully this way everyone could be happy.
2006-06-25 04:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe suggest to your boyfriend, that the dog only comes in the house sometimes. And the rest of the time stay in the back yard. if that situation doesn't work, maybe place certain areas of the house off limits to the dog, so then you will have a couple of comfort rooms!
2006-06-25 04:57:40 · answer #7 · answered by alyssabeth2304 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if that dog means that much to him then there are ways to adjust ... i have a dog and there are jsut little things like vacuming ans sweeping that make a big difference ... throw a blanket over the couch or even get him his own bed to lay on ... Maybe create trian him for when noone is home to watch him ???
I would say at least make a effort if the dog means that much to him ... Try and reverse the roll in your mind.. What if it was you and your dog that your man wanted you to get rid of ???
2006-06-25 04:58:27 · answer #8 · answered by princess2luv_u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of us dog people consider our dogs to be just like our children. Think about what it would be like if you were to come between a parent and his child!
If you can't live with the dog, then you shouldn't be with the boyfriend.
2006-06-25 08:26:15 · answer #9 · answered by A Great Dane Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to leave the dog at his parents home where it is familiar and comfortable. Explain the benefits of not having to pay for pet damages and finding a kennel if you two ever want to go out and have fun TOGETHER for more than a short period.
PEACE
EdE
2006-06-25 04:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by ede1964 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋