what do i tell him?

Question

My boi wants to go farther in the relationship. Im only 15. I don't want to do that with him. I love him and i think, know, we will get married, together for 6 years. I still think im too young though. He told me he was srry for asking, he just did cuz he had ben thinking about it. But i think he feels strange telling me that and i said no. What should i tell him to break this wall?

We met in a local kids chatroom. When i was 9.

Answer 1

It is absolutely natural for a boy his age to crave sex. It is his harmones talking and completely out of his own control. If you judge him upon this he will become angry and you will lose him. If he has already talked about sex with you, then he is most likely already beginning his search for sex elsewhere. You need to be creative to keep him satisfied or you will lose him to the school whore. You don't have to have sex with him but you can do other things for him that he will like. Most girls give up their virginity around age 16.

Answer 2

6 years and you're only 15? Well I think you should wait. You're at that age where your body is making a lot of changes and you want to explore those things. I guess the ultimate decision is yours, but there are other ways you two can show that you love eachother. Believe me...you have plenty of time to do that stuff.... and it's not as much fun when you're so young that you're living at home worried about getting caught by the little bro or your parents.

Answer 3

Well 15 is very young to have a real meaningful relationship, now im only 16 but i know you can't and shouldn't really go very far into a realtionship, which might sound bad but really you are soo young, you have your whole life ahead of you, NEVER give in you don't want something bad to happen...to break that wall hmmm well tell him what you honestly think, talk to him, I mean you seem smart enough to know not to do something stupid....
~♥~Brenda~♥~

Answer 4

Of course communication is important. I don't mean to sound like a typical therapist, but communication is very important.

Tell him what you ...told "us" about how you think he feels a bit strange about you asking him to wait. Ask him how he feels, and then tell him your ideas about having sex.

Also make sure to reassure him that you understand completely where he is coming from, and if you don't, ask him to help you understand it.

Make sure you set a time to have this talk so you don't get interrupted and end up having it as an "unfinished conversation."

Also, people will tell you that you aren't ready, that you don't love him, etc. and they may or may not be right, but make sure in the end you do what feels right to you.

I hope everything goes well! =]

Answer 5

Your still very young.....but you always honor yourself first, and only do things that are YOUR choice. If you think your too young for sex, then you are.....Imagine how you would feel being a teen mother? I'm sure you believe that you'll marry him someday. In reality, the odds are strongly against that. We all hope to marry our first love, few do. And even fewer stay successfully married to them. I think 15 is young for sex, but that's not my real problem with your question. It's that YOU aren't ready. Follow your own instincts. Tell him? You did.....you said no. If he loves you as much as you say.....he'll respect you and your answer.

Answer 6

you are too young to know what real love is and what the sacrifices are that you have to make for real love. Honesty is always the best policy in a long term relationship, tell him how you feel and only do what you feel right about doing. If he cannot respect your feelings then your relationship was not going to last anyway and you are better off without him.......... p.s. If he pulls that "because I love you we should have sex" bullshiit ... dump him fast and don't look back ............... of course he was thinking about it he is a teenage boy ... he barely ever thinks about anything else.

Answer 7

First of all if he loves you and really cares for you he will respect your wishes, of course he is going to feel weird now because he probably feels stupid for asking especially since you said no. But a way to break the wall is just tell him you need to talk about it and just be honest and explain to him that you love him but also explain the reasons that you told him no, I am sure he will understand.

Answer 8

Ask him about it. Tell him you still stand firm by your decision and why, and that you still care about him, and don't want it to stand between you two. Mainly though, tell him that you noticed he was different after the incident, and that you want to know what you can do to make things the same again. Also, young love, hon, young love, and you obviously know all about that. you're a very mature person, I can tell, and I commend you for your decision. Other girls faced with that decision wouldn't be able to do that. Good luck!

Answer 9

You are right, you are too young if YOU feel you are too young. Tell him that it isn't right yet and that he will just have to wait a little longer. And it will be worth the wait. I am glad to see that you are smart enough to realize that you are not ready for that type of a relationship yet. Don't rush into things you will know when it is right.

Cheers :)

Answer 10

UR 15 YRS...NOT 20! Hey come on..b at ur limits till ur 18 or 20 or so..then tlk bout marriage and all that stuff..i think u should just forget bout all this nd tell him its k..it hppens cuz of temptation..move on girl! All The Best