My bf and i have stopped having sex?

Question

My bf and i have stopped having sex because he fear is for him to get me pregant and we are still in college we have planned to get married after we both graduate college. We are always well protected when we did have sex. He says he doesnt want to have sex until we are married. anyone can give me advice please

Answer 1

U R A VERY LUCKY FOR HAVIN A GUY WHO UNDERSTANDS THE WHOLE CONCEPT ......................AND HE WILL MARRY U..........U R LUCKY GIRL...........MAY GOD BLESS U..........DON'T LEAVE HIM..........

Answer 2

What happened, did he get religion or something? Something has happened that you are not telling us, guys don't just stop cold turkey unless something happened. Did you miss a period and scare him ??
While it is not a bad thing to wait until marriage at all, The fact that hes suddenly stopped makes it hard for you to understand this and I can understand that. All you have to hope is that there is not some other reason this is happening, like he is having second thoughts about a life after college with you or something. I would ask him. Better to know now than later. Hate to bring this up but also you might want to check with his friends etc if anyone has any idea if he is enamored of someone else also.

Answer 3

Well you have to respect how he feels and you are lucky to have a boyfriend like that cause most men wouldnt stop having sex for anything. But a baby does change things and i can tell you it is very hard to go to school with a baby i have 2 and i struggle everyday. He has the right idea but if this was very abrupt ask him what brought it on. There had to be something that triggered it talk to him about it and see what he says. Good luck though on the marriage i know i'm sorry but i think marriage sucks lol but thats just me.

Answer 4

First try to understand where he's coming from, then if at that point you can't get over the fact that he wants to wait a little while (okay a long while) then maybe the relationship is not what you thought it was, maybe it just about sex. Then yeah you need to leave him and find someone who wants what you want

I personally think he's very noble for wanting to wait and ensure that you both have the future you are working so hard to have.

Answer 5

Yes, your boyfriend has a great idea. If all men felt that way maybe I would find me a nice man to marry out there. You are very blessed! If only you could find a way to appreciate him for this now. If not I am afraid you will find that you should have in the long run.

Answer 6

I think he's probably found someone else, so he doesn't need sex from you. If you were using protection, why would he worry about a pregnancy? I think it's just something to say and not really true. Unless he suddenly found religion or something. But I doubt it. Move on.

Answer 7

You should be flattered that he wants to Waite until your married. Maybe he realizes what would happen if you were to get pregnant. It would change everthing. How you two feel toward each other and Maybe his afraid you'll blame him if you don't get to finish college. And of course he wants that for you both. Don't worry about it until he gives you more of a reason to.

Answer 8

Same thing happened to me, i was pissed off for a while, but then was okay with it cause on the long run, youre kind f glad youre not pregnant. I sometines got stressed bacause with any little mistake u can get pregnant and youre life wil just turn into everything you werent looking for

Answer 9

Well he is sweet. He just doesn't want to cause trouble especially for you. But assure him that everything is okay. Rather than using condoms, use birth control pills. Condoms do not work 100% of the time and you don't want to take that risk now do you? Birth control pills are better.

Answer 10

He seems like a decent guy...Let's see if he can live up to his words. U guy been doing it before several times why would he suddenly care about getting u pregnant not but not from the getgo...Hmm...sumthin' smell little bit fishy to me.

Good luck!

Answer 11

He is either getting it someone else, or he loves to be frustrated, or he is turning gay. Get on the pill or just give him head all the time. If he still doesn't want to have sex, then you know he is getting it from someone else.